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writes:This may seem completely pathetic and let me put this out here now... I am not considered weird or out there in my school I have a lot of friends and I have a well known status. I'm a junior in high school and I am so nervous about this year. It seems like my friends are always labeled as the babes, but recently I've felt like I'm the odd one out. I feel like there are always guys florishing around my friends but never around me. I'm not ugly or anything I just have been labeled being into to this one guy for like a year and he was a total loser so now everyone kind of associates me with him. Anyways, this party going on tonight is invitation only but the guy that did the invites just randomly invited good looking girls I never see him during school nor am I friends with him but my friends aren't either and two of them did get invited. I was actually standing right next to my friend on the bleachers during a football game when the guy who's throwing the party went up and asked if she was going, but he didn't say anything to me. Does that mean that I'm slacking in the good looks department? Or maybe he just doesn't remember me? It's basically like guys that go to my school just want ass and are complete jerks, but I feel like I'm the ugly one! Why?! Reply to this Question
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reader, bwee123 +, writes (7 September 2010):
bwee123 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Haha thank you guys! I actually realized its deffinately the way I act around guys. I am so not good at flirting! I am extremely outgoing but I think I just don't know how to talk to a guy more than a friend I know I'm just in highschool and I shouldn't worry but its the little things like homecoming and such where I want a date and I want to be highly regarded towards guys. Last year I completely ruined my rep because I talked to too many guys I was the "player." This year I feel like I'm the one who NEVER has a guy. I guess I just need a confidence boost
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reader, Supreeya  +, writes (4 September 2010):
First of all you are a young girl, you have years to mature and grow into your looks. But this doenst mean you're ugly or your friends are better looking. Dont compare yourself to others because honey, you are an individual and on a level of you own.
Also, high school is difficult becauase it's normally a battle for popularity. If you really want to go to the party, maybe ask one of your girlfriends to take you with them? But don't feel left out or like your the ugly duckling.
Alot of the time young guys in high schools like more developed girls, or girls they think are slutty. So it may not even be a bad thing that guys aren't throwing themselves at you.
Just remember, confidence is sexy, and you are a confident young lady who loves life and will do the best with what she has. So even if you miss a few parties or don't get asked out, keep your head high and be happy becasue it won't be the only party in the world and it isn't the be all and end all.
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (4 September 2010):
 sometimes people blame the wrong things when it comes to situations like these. My friend blames her lack of luck with guys because she's overweight a bit, but in reality she becomes obsessive and scares the guys away. Is there something you might be doing or presenting yourself in some way to turn the guys away from you?
Perhaps you're not approachable as these other girls, are you outgoing, friendly to others and do you laugh a lot? I once went out with my friend to find her a guy, I was her 'wing man' haha, but the guys kept talking to me because they'd approach us and she'd not talk, she would put up her nose at them and act like she was better then anyone who approached her. ..lol and some of these guys were rather cute. However, I'm not saying you do that but I don't know you, perhaps it could be something about your attitude?
I'm just throwing out options because I know some 'not so attractive girls but not ugly either' who get guys attention, and people love them.
But how rude of that guy not to invite you to that party yet invite your friend right in front of you. If it is about your looks then these people don't deserve you. They'd be shallow and only looking for something sexual in a girl anyway.
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell +, writes (4 September 2010):
 Most teenage girls are insecure about something. Your friends probably look at you and wish they had something you had, be it your legs, eyes or intelligence. It doesn't help that magazines kind of force this unattainable "perfection" on young girls and make them believe they need to look a certain way. As long as you're confident with who you are, guys will like you. If the guys are only after sex, do you really want them to like you anyway? If they like you for what you wear/look like, not who you are? Try not feel like you're the ugly duckling of the group, chances are at least a few of them feel the same! Just be yourself, take care of yourself and love who you are. Some guys find confidence attractive anyway, so it's like an added bonus :)
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