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writes:What did I Do Wrong? Ok so me and my guy best friend John, are planning a camping trip. He made up a list with, Some french girls (I live in a french english community), Some guys, me and my boyfriend. Well talking to me one friend about it, he went off and told one of my best friends (One I had yet to invite or tell it about) Now she is mad at me. Beacause i didn't invite her and didn't really have plans on it because she does not know half the people, or even talk to them. So I don't want to have to have to take care of her kindda thing. Why is she mad at me?
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (29 July 2010):
 Been there. It's tough when you're friends with different groups of people who don't like eachother very much. You can try explaining that you were invited, and didn't feel comfortable inviting people when you are a "guest" yourself. That may smooth things over, but it may not. I have to agree with the others though as to why she's hurt. Even if you never treated her that way, that's likely how it felt to her.
You silly women and all your feelings! [/sarcasm font]
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reader, Over..worried. +, writes (29 July 2010):
Over..worried. is verified as being by the original poster of the question I don't, I was going to talk to her about it. And I was not the one inviting people thats the biggest thing. Basically I am being invited. Yes I am involved with planning. And .... the people going kindda dont like her I should have mentioned that. She's mad cause some one else told her.
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reader, st jude  +, writes (29 July 2010):
 you call her one of your best friends ?? then treat her like she isnt important to you. how strange !!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (29 July 2010):
 Because you treat her like she is an annoyance. You don't wanna "take care of her": She can manage on her own. If she wants to come why would you shut her out? Is she that bothersome? Because that is the impression you are giving off, that she is uninvited and will only be in the way because she is not friends with everyone already? Well how will she ever become friends with them if she isn't included. You are freezing her out.
That is why she is mad. That is how she feels. Now you of course have every right to invite whoever you want, and maybe you should just explain to her that you thought it wasn't her kind of thing. But usually, the polite way of going about these things is to let whomever decide for themselves if they want to come or not, and not just make that decision over their heads. Unless of course, you don't want her there and are freezing her out or find her bothersome.
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