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writes:This is gonna be one long winded question, so yeah!Anyway, I'm currently seventeen. I've been dating my current boyfriend for 3 years.When I was young (about 9-10) I used to have the biggest crushes on boys, and it's been that way forever.When I was fourteen, with the same boyfriend, I watched some lesbian porn, and got extremely turned on by it.I fantasized about it a few times after that, but then grew out of it and completely forgot about it. So anyway, about 3 months back, with the same boyfriend, I watched lesbian porn again. I couldn't stop thinking about being in a lesbian porn film for ages. It's turning me on so badly!I've always loved boys, and they used to turn me on so much, so I dont get why fantasizing about them isn't turning me on anymore?I get horny when I think about making a lesbian porno film, yet I don't fancy any girls at school and have never wanted a relationship with one and the thought of actually loving/having sex with a real woman doesn't do anything for me at all.I don't get it...?Why is it when I think about making a lesbian film, but not actually being a lesbian?I mean, sometimes I see girls and think, "They're pretty," or "they have a good body," but I dont think, "Wow, I wanna have sex with them! Or date them!" See what I mean?Me and my boyfriend broke up about a month back, and I'm over him, and have the biggest crush on a man that's twenty six (shame!) but I still can't fantasize about boys in general much, sometimes they do turn me on yes but not very often. Is this possibly because I used to fantasize about boys 24/7 and I've some how got tired to death of it? The same type/style of sex over and over again?When I wait for a while and fantasize, I can usually get turned on.What's happening to me? I can't fancy anyone my age either atm!!Help? I mean, I do like kissing/making out when I was with my bf, but the thought doesnt do much atm?Help?!
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reader, luvee  +, writes (7 July 2011):
Okay so just so you know LOTS of people get turned on by lesbians (sometimes even gays)maybe you could experiment by dating a girl your still young you have to grow up and maybe you are a lesbian,bi or straight how the hell are you supost to know you are 17? just experiment with it and have FUN! And in the end when you figure out your sexuality it's nothing to be assamed of.....and I am only like 12....I AM DEEP
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reader, natalieejanex +, writes (12 February 2011):
 sexual fantasy? straight people can and do watch gay/lesbian porn. chances are you're straight or confusing a sexual fantasy for your own sexual orientation. all you can do is experiment and see where it goes..
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2009): Of course there's no DEFINATE that you are a lesbian, you COULD be, but the most likely thing is that you, like many peope, enjoy lesbian porn because it is (to you) different and unusual!
Maybe, the reason you don't fantasize about men is because it's all "same old, same old" like you said, and (assuming you are not a virgin)you've had it with a man before, so it's more reality than fiction,
Whereas lesbian sex is fiction for you, and therefore more exciting and open to the mind?
I don't know,
Maybe you could be bi?
But, because of the way you talked about women there, I don't think that that is the case.
Just, be youself, be happy, and...
...Good luck with that crush of yours!
=)
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reader, helpjayne +, writes (16 November 2008):
 it might be curiousity im open minded and i have always loved boys but girls can be really sexy too and can turn me on just as much, it's probably the unknown for you when you were younger boys and sex was the unknown now you've experienced that you've found something else. you shouldn't be embarrassed and whatnot i know plenty of women who have never kissed a girl and love their boyfriends to death bt get a hot by lesbian porn. i don't know if i'm right in saying this but i think lesbian porn concentrates more on the woman and it turns you on because you know what she's feeling (bar the other woman being there).
don't worri about being a lesbian if you don't like the idea of you and real women then your probs not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2008): I'm not a lesbian, I've never been with a woman, and I couldn't imagine being with another woman. But...I must say that watching women in porn is way hotter than watching a man. I get turned on by watching women than men. I see what you're saying. Even looking at pictures. I think it's because most naked pictues of men, they look gay and there's nothing like turning someone off than looking at gay men....I DON'T THINK SO! I used to have to think about lesbian porn just to get into having sex with my ex because he did not turn me on at all!! But like I said, I've never even kissed another girl and I don't think I ever could...even if I was curious. I love men and I love making love to men!
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reader, michele21  +, writes (2 November 2008):
 I have been in relationship with 2 females one for a 1 year and one I am currently in for 3 years. Now don't get me wrong I love men, I love the attention and the feeling they have over me nice bodies and just the flirting.... but I also love a sexy female as well they make me feel a way a man never can... so if you can only fantisize and not actually picture yourself with a female than you're not a lesbian you just think it's hot to see them on a flick.... so like the other person said watch some straight porn and see what that does for you if not try to actually find a woman to try things out on just to see what all the hype and excitment is about if you don't like it then you will know but you only live once... and you're young so why not!
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reader, lopikult +, writes (31 October 2008):
I think it's cause you watched it with him and unconsciously you realized he would really like that and you would really like being so freaking hot for him and him being so turned on for you and so the lesbian thing tied in there, you vizualized yourself as part of that, if you saw other porn he liked with a women maybe you'd also liek doing that cause it looked sexy and fun and seeing him hard and on would be great for you... even if you do see yourself being a bit attracted to a women it's not that uncommon and it's relatively normal that really doesn't make you a lesbian so forget it, it's a fantasy leave it in your head lol
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reader, Reebe +, writes (31 October 2008):
 Hi, your young and your hormones are all over the place! Don't try and put yourself in a box and label yourself. You might be straight, gay or bisexual.
Try and relax a bit about the whole thing, sometimes you do fancy or see something that turns you on, it doesn't mean you want to do it, even if it was put in front of you.
See how things go, try different things and see whats right for you, just remember to be safe and careful, I hope this helps.
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