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writes:My boyfriend of almost six months and I have been exclusive since nearly the beginning of our relationship. We usually see each other once or twice a week, due to our work schedules and the fact that we both have kids. Last week he went by himself to Las Vegas for a few days because he had never been there and had a free ticket. The trip was planned a long time ago, and even though I was worried, he blogged about the trip and it was (according to his blog) innocent, gambling and lying by the pool, etc.My concern is that he wrote when he got back and told me he thought he might have gotten strep throat or an ear infection, and was suffering some insomnia from the time change of the trip. It's now been almost a week that he's been home and I have only gotten three e-mails from him, all short and no mention of getting together. I can see from his MySpace page that he has logged on several times, but hasn't written to me except for those three short e-mails. Am I being silly? Men, do you sometimes just not feel like communicating with your girlfriend? Help, please. I am just sick to my stomach wondering if he is trying to shut me out or distance himself, or that maybe something happened in L.V. that he doesn't want to have to explain.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionActually, right after I posted my question, I received an e-mail from him, filled with Xs and Os saying he really did have strep and an ear infection and has been spending the past few days recovering, sleeping during the day (he took sick time from work) so he could be awake to be with his daughter at night. He has never lied to me so far, so I guess I'm just panicking BECAUSE of the Vegas trip. Thanks for the support. I'm going to back off for a few more days and see what happens.
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (31 October 2008):
 Being a woman I can only answer what I've experienced. Yes, men sometimes do get to where they need to have some space. The fact that this is coming on the heels of a trip he went to (to Las Vegas no less) seems to me that yes, maybe something did happen that he doesn't want to explain. Sometimes it's just easier to not face the truth.
What can you do? Have you tried communicating with him, asking him if he is feeling well or just trying to get him to open up?
Sometimes the only thing we can do is back off and give them their time alone.
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