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writes:Very strange guy i am thinking. See what you think. Were in same yr at school, met up on facebook few weeks ago, met in person 2 weeks ago tomorrow for a drink in the day. I went out with mates that night, he txt saying pop round on way home, i said ok but your not getting anything! He said i never asked to! anyway went round his, drink, good chat, slept in his bed fully clothed, he dropped me back at 7am, had a cup of tea, went home, i went to bed at 8am! Txt a few times after that, spoke on f/b. Txt him over a week ago just saying someone is thinking about you. He said who's that, i said some blonde woman. He said oh yeh whats she thinking? I said jokingly, nothing smutty just thinking about you lol he said first you txt saying im not getting a shag the other night when i didn't suggest it, then you say nothing smutty, who do you think i am? Im not a perv. I didn't txt him til the next day after that. Since then its been casual chat on f/b. Txt him tonight askin if he fancied meeting for drink tomoz afternoon again. He said i dont know who you do, i dont do that. I said you've lost me lol he said i dont go places where i dont know people. You will be there with your friends. I said no one will be there i know, the last time i went to the place i met you before was a yr ago. And to forget i asked.Do you think this guy has issues?
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (6 September 2008):
 I think that you two are not communicating well. To me, you've sent him a message twice that seemed to indicate to him (rightfully so) that he is looking for action with you. You are the one who brought up those thoughts. When someone does that to me, then I start to wonder what they are after. My guess is that he may have concerns about what you are looking for.
Regarding him not wanting to go to a place where you know everyone and he knows no-one, there is a mis-understanding of some kind. Does he think you're going out with work folks and want him to join the group?
I am not sure what you are looking for long term here but it is fairly clear that the two of you need to sit down over a cup of coffe and discuss things and clear the air.
Personally, there isn't enough evidence for me to think this guy has issues.
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (6 September 2008):
 I think your age is wrong.
Ok, let's put this in your perspective. Would you have liked it if he "jokingly" had said "...but you're so fat!" Or have said "Why would anyone talk to you?" Out of nowhere?
The thing is that you can't joke with all the people you want. Some people are just serious people and they might not tolerate those kind of jokes. Sure you mean nothing about them but what he might see is rudeness and stepping out of boundaries. You only know him for a couple of weeks, he may not know you well too
Or, he might just not get your texts as jokes. Now, this doesn't make him dumb or derrange, there are people who aren't able to pick stuff like abstract writting (like me).
Just because someone doesn't like you or joke around with you doesn't mean there's issues with the person. Some people just never click and that's how it is, it' nobody's fault.
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