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writes:I meet this guy as my teacher in highschool for one of my classes. Things started out simple enough where he was the teacher and i was the student, nothing more than that. but soon causal flirting from both of us started taking place, yet nothing every physical or anything. he would drop hints to me and i to him. he purposely waiting till i had graduated before he ever tried to contact me via facebook. over the summer then we became alot closer and he told me how much he really really liked me. he is 26 and im turning 19. we've gone out on dates, held hands and kissed, but he is always afraid that someone will find out or something and it will get back to him at school. we aren't a couple just dating i guess but becuz of our complex schedules we don't get to really see each other. besides his and i guess my fear of what others will think, should i stop all this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2008): he sounds really nice and it sounds like he really love you i mean he waited over 4 years for you to graduate if you like him keep dating him and the age difference isn't that big
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2008): You are out of his jurisdiction now... there is nothing wrong, morally or legally.
At your ages no one is gonna bat even the remotist eye-lid these days. And lets face it, at least he waited... there are not many who would have done so.
Clearly he likes you and hopefully his patience is a sign of a gentleman.
If you two want to, trully want to, then you will MAKE it work, schedules and all.
Oh and try to alleviate his fears of his collegues finding out. There is nothing they can do about it now anyway. They can't fire him for dating a former student and they can't prove that he ever had feelings for you before you graduated.
So I would continue dating and in all probability jumping bones with the guy if I was you. You are both relatively young and that isn't gonna last long my friend.
Flynn 24
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reader, supermum  +, writes (5 September 2008):
 you have to think about his reputation as a teacher...
this could loose him his job.. please be careful
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reader, Aunty Em +, writes (5 September 2008):
 Aside from the fact that you're both fearful of who may find out about this realtionship. I think everything's suitable as long as you're willing to work at it i.e. those busy schedules.
But including the fear of people finding out - turn it in to something positive. You can still be careful, but in stead of being scared - think in a "we know something you don't know" way. It's a lot more fun.
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reader, aschmit3 +, writes (5 September 2008):
I don't think there is anything wrong with it. He showed great respect for you and you showed respect for yourself by waiting until you were graduated to pursue anything. If you're happy, then be happy! Who cares what others think.
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