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writes:There is this guy who I used to date and have sex with, and all of a sudden, I saw a bunch of things that raise the question: Does this guy have an official girlfriend?-Firstly, he posted a picture on IG with a girl on Halloween and she commented "Next year we can be blah blah blah" with a kissy face emoji.-I went to her IG and saw she has a bunch of pictures with him and places that they have been to together, like restaurants, concerts, music festivals. Some of these pictures even date back to two months ago!-They seem to have met each other's siblings and friends. (Based on pictures)-He's gotten her a bouquet of flowers-She posted a picture with a month ago captioned, "A good cowboy is hard to find"He stopped talking to me for two weeks after he posted that picture with her, so I assumed they were official and that he was trying to be loyal by not talking to me. He unexpectedly reached out to me a couple days ago, so I am confused whether or not they are together. What do you think? Is he being disloyal?I'm trying to get over him :( I want to believe he's not as great as I thought he was because it makes it easier to move on.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (18 November 2016):
 Ask him.
He might be honest, he might lie. The thing is you and him weren't serious, you dated a little you say and had sex.
My guess is, SHE is his GF. The fact that she has met some of his family kind of does it for me. You don't introduce an F-buddy/FWB to the family, but you do introduce a GF or potential GF.
And if I were you, I'd stop wasting my time on this guy. For the simple fact that he just stopped talking to you for two weeks and then think it's OK to hit you up again. Most likely for sex. Not really a stellar guy. And if we add that she MIGHT be his GF? Shady dude. And going by your post it seems like you are/were developing feelings for him, he obviously doesn't feel the same.
So yes, I would just block him.
OP, never settle for an FWB/F-buddy thing if you REALLY want a relationship.
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reader, N91  +, writes (18 November 2016):
 Sounds like theyre together, but what's stopping you asking him to make sure?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2016): I always think you should do as much investigations about a man before getting in too deep. A lot of men do hide important facts. A lot of men like having a bit on the side.
Wish him all the best and have some self respect for yourself . If he still wants you let him come to you.
I can feel your hurt. Hold your head up and throw yourself into domething. Don't become a mad bunny boiler.
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reader, Slippers +, writes (18 November 2016):
You need to friend check him .. and box him.in this box .. don't be used and please please don't let him cheat .. you hold your head up you didn't have a clue until now .. now you do .. If he's a nice guy cool .. say hi I see you have a gf that doesn't mean we can't be friends as I don't step on other girls toes .. There are plenty of guys out there waiting on you for more ..let this one swim on ..
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (18 November 2016):
 Block him. It doesn't matter whether he's with her or not; you can't move on until you refuse to think about him and redirect your thoughts when you do.
You can move on, OP; you have it in you, but you have to be strict with yourself to keep your feelings in check. Block him, don't look at his IG or hers, etc.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (18 November 2016):
 Can you not simply ask him outright what the score is between him and this girl?
For the record, if he was seeing you (on whatever level) and having sex with you, then just dropped up without having the manners or consideration to explain why, he is NOT great by any stretch of the imagination.
You deserve better. Find yourself someone about whose intentions you are in no doubt, not someone who keeps you on the back burner "just in case".
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reader, Eagle'sfan1986 +, writes (18 November 2016):
I read your comment sweetie, I got some input to share with you since I went through the same thing a couple years ago. I think the guy probably has a girlfriend if there is alot of pictures of them together and if they both met each other's parents also. He could leading you on also by reaching out to u and dating his new gf also. Did you ask him if the girl next to his his gf? I will find someone single instead of waiting for your ex.
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