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writes:HiFirstly a little back ground on my GF. She used to be a player and have flirt with other man. Now she has pledge her fatefullnees to me but still has many male friends. She talks about sex very casually to them and she seems to share many things with them. She clams that she mixes well with man and enjoys when those man says sweet things to her to please her. She say in this era this is so comman and that that is not being unfaithful and it is normal. When we started the relationship, I made a request that she discontinue from contacting her ex-lovers and she agreed as due to her past, I don't feel very comfortable with it.. When I asked her if she has deleted contacts of these other mans, she said yes. I later found out that she still has these contact on her facebook. When I questioned her, she said it was just to look at their pics. Recently I found out that she still sends Emails to her lovers although contents I am not sure of and I would assume still talks to them. I tried many times to explain to her how I feel but still it does not work. Everytime she does these thigs I will feel very sad.Is there a problem with me? Is there hope in this relationship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2010): If she is still contacting ex boyfriends then this girl obviously does not care about your feelings. When you love some one you respect their feeling and opinions. As for the emails that are being sent ask her straight out about them. Thinking about what could be in them will drive you mad.I know it is hard but their is a girl out their that is not a flirt that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.Good luck :)
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (4 January 2010):
No the problem is with her. She agreed to cut contact and then she lied about it.
If she knows she is hurting you but carrying on doing it then she doesn't care about you.
I think the time has come to let her go off and chat with these men while you find a girlfriend who respects you and doesn't want to hurt you.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (4 January 2010):
I'm a believer that ex's should be left in the past. Your girlfriend sounds like she has esteem issues and male comments make her feel good. You can't change that. Also, she said she had let her ex's go, yet now you've found she has some on facebook and she's still speaking to them. So she lied to you. You can't change that either. I'm afraid to say she it who she is, and I don't think she will change. So you either have to accept her as she is and trust her, or you need to move on now.
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