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writes:Dear readers, I'm going through the depressing moments in a breakup of a long relationship. I thought this would be easy because i foolishly thought my anger would just make it better for me to forget. Now i keep thinking that i lost him and i regret not giving him a chance to talk to me about the breakup. To start it off, I've known him for 3 years. for a year and a half we were together, and there was a breakup before this, but we got back together after 3 months of separation. He basically chose his priorities, which were his friends. and it hurt. especially since it was right after my bday and it was the first vacation we've had together at the same time for once. We both go to different colleges. He just didnt call or talk to me or remember me actually for a period of 4 days. and then after i called him up, he hung up on me, explaining that he can't hear me since he's at a club and he'd call me back, i call again the same night, no reply, no reply for the entire night, and the day after. Don't get me wrong, i gave him so much freedom and so much trust, im not controlling, i dont smother. He was being selfish, and to top it off, he didnt even get me a flower for my bday. except he just nagged bout the other gifts he;s given to me from my PAST 2 bdays and that he couldn't think of any. in the end i realised i was too nice, and he took advantage and just thought id always be there. after i broke it off, we didnt talk for a month, and then i hear one by one, how scared hes been to call me up. he's sent messages coz i didnt want to hear his voice, and he told me he;d always love me and that cant change, maybe we can resolve our issue later but can we be friends. I said ok to that, coz i dont know, all the feelings just came out of me. i havent heard from him for weeks until my friend set a meeting up for us to "talk"- i tried my best to act okay and he was a bit moody or just too into his phone lol and we tried chatting but it was weird coz ppl were around, and i dont know, it was hard. he told my friend that he was glad he saw me and he feels more comfortable now, and he wants to go out as friends. for me, it was awful lol. I miss him so much, and i really want to call him up and tell him i cant be friends with u at all. I saw some pictures of him with people and i got really jealous and well, he looks happy, and well me phoning him would be weird and annoying i guess.. im a very in denial type of person. so i might have not discussed some signs that were positive to the situation. thank you in advance for reading and i apologize for the really really long intro :)
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reader, branhquy  +, writes (7 January 2010):
 Hi there, I'm the one that told you that you should leave ur bf and move on in the previous post. ( just let you know who I am) I don't know why he tells his friends about you. His actions proves that he's very immature and playing with you. " Men likes things that they don't have" that's why he called you. He hadn't heard for you for weeks, so he's surprised when thinking you already forget him. this guy is mean, he wants you to chase him, how funny. Sweetie, you should be strong right now. DONT call him, or contact him in any ways. The more you run away from him, the more he chases you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionso he started talking to me.
and then his friend started talking to me all of a sudden, which has made me think "yup they're talking about ya!"
he even told me to text him which was fustrating, like he wants me to chase him.
He has even asked me to hang out with him soon, and told me that i can call him whenever i want. Now Im just wondering why he;s not doing all those things to me. and I think he;s still scared and doesn't know wat to think, I honestly feel like him and his friend are talking about me and that whenever i talk to him, his friend was there to watch.
The reason im annoyed at the fact his buddy was talking to me, oh and btw it was through My ex's email, is that i HATE HIM , and he knows i really dislike him. and he was being quite nice to me.
I haven't texted or called or initiated anything, and i dont want to, its weird.I just wish he could talk for himself and not let someone else tell him what to do. He just cant be himself
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2010): I have the feeling that he's playing games with you. I just broke up with my boyfriend for one week. I was so stupid that i was try to call him, text him, say sorry, say that it's all my faults. But guess what, he'a playing games with you. I can't believe that, but it's true he's such a sucker. He called me a "stalker" lmao, and he said " i'm scared, you can cry and smile at the same time, you're like an actor." It hurts me so much. Now I don't feel sorry of losing him, I just feel i'm stupid since i chose a sucker to be my lover. I think you should be strong now. We're trying to get suckers out of our lives. That guy is playing games with you. if he truly loved u, he didnt' treat you like that, he didn't hurt you. The more you think of him, the hurter you get. leave him and move on
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reader, jones15  +, writes (4 January 2010):
 he sounds like a bit of an idiot to be honest.....wouldnt give him the time of day...just because your totally inlove with him doesnt mean you should let him walk all over you, you dont have to be soft to be nice.
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