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writes:I got myself in a complicated situation. I just found out that i am pregnant with my third. The problem is i am not too sure if i want to tell the father of my children if i am because i have been with him during this month and some other guy i just hooked up once with just two weeks ago, I am sure we wore a condom. I didnt cheat or anything me and the babys dad are going through some problems as of right now we have been together for 6 years. I am thinking about abortion just not 100% sure if i will go through with it not because of i dont know who the father is. But the question is Does the father of my kids have a right to know my situation im going through ? WE are pretty much over and ill be okay with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2012): I agree the most with nonan. you know it is upto you if you have an abortion and one thing to consider is if this guy whichever one, is capable of keeping his mouth shut if you do confide in him about this. you dont want to tell someone who will tell everyone or worse still use this to humiliate you. good luck in whatever you choose, try to speak to a non judgemental (non pro life) counsellor for advice and help
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reader, BondGirl72  +, writes (5 August 2012):
 Whoever the father is has a right to know you're pregnant and also has a right to know you're considering an abortion. You are talking about terminating the life of the child belonging to one of these men. That is no small issue.
The thing is...you say you'll be ok with it now, but a lot of things you do when you're young, have a tendency to creep back into your emotional life when you get older. My sister had an abortion after a wild night at a party. She was on drugs at the time and had no idea who the father was. She thought abortion was the best option, which it could have been at the time. The problem is...whether it is the "best option" or not, you will think about the child you terminated forever. My sister does. You will also think about the brother or sister you kept from your children, and the child you kept secret from the father.
Unless your ex is abusive or a drug addict, I think he deserves to know. The same with the other guy. If they are not capable of being decent human beings when they get this news, then I might consider keeping it from them, but I would really think about all of the implications of abortion before you decide on it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2012): "Does the father of my kids have a right to know my situation im going through ? WE are pretty much over and ill be okay with it."
At the very least, as baby daddy of your two children he has the right to know whatever his children know about their mother's situation, whether it be the truth or a white-lie cover story.
At the very most, as maybe daddy of your unborn third child he has the right to know whatever you know as soon as you know it.
You and baby daddy may be "pretty much over," but your children will always be his children, and more importantly
your children will always see the two of you as Mom and Dad. Shack-ups and hook-ups and one-night stands come and go, but parenthood is forever.
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reader, nonan  +, writes (5 August 2012):
It's almost impossible to say, without knowing the relationship between you and the father. If I was the dad, I think I'd like to know but folk all vary.
One thing - if you do not tell him now, NEVER tell him and MAKE SURE he never finds out.
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