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*londebaby
writes:My boyfriend of two years who is now the father of my child will not live with me. He says I've kicked him out too many times in the past for him to just leave his stable home with his two friends and move back in.. I told him I didn't want anything to do with him while living over there and I give up.. He's only texted me once since then to check on our daughter and got mad at me because I didn't respond telling me " and I wonder why were not together, same shit diff day. Smh. Bye" and I haven't heard from him since then.. That was Tuesday.. I don't know what to do... Or say... Or what he's thinking.... Help please
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (28 May 2013):
 He has learned that living with you will result in him getting kicked out and why trade that with the stable home he now has.
You two have a daughter together and you need to put her first. If he wants an update on her as her father, you as the mother should respect that and not use her as leverage against him.
If you want to maintain a relationship with him, you need to show him that you have changed.
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reader, llifton +, writes (27 May 2013):
 Everything CMMP said.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (27 May 2013):
It sounds like he's thinking he can't deal with you anymore. His reasoning seems solid to me; he's learned that the two of you don't work well together when you live in the same home, so to avoid what he knows will eventually happen (you kicking him out) he wants to stay put. Simple enough. The irony is that you proved him right by telling him you don't want anything to do with him unless he lives with you.
If you still have any chance of salvaging this relationship you're going to have to start thinking about the consequences of your actions.
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