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anonymous
writes:im 14 years old and my sisters best mate keeps flirting with me and tries cuddling me but shes 11 nearly 12, i do have some feelings for her but is the age diffrence a problem?
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reader, Aunty Em +, writes (1 September 2008):
 It is alright, and entirely normal to discover the feelings you're experiencing for members of the opposite sex.
In your case, it isn't the age difference that matters, but the fact that she is 11. It is a very young age, on that doesn't involve the emotional maturity just yet to be in an intimate relationship.
For now, at least, put your feelings to one side and try to focus on the girls your own age maybe?
Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2008): This girl is very young so it would be inappropriate to have any kind of relationship with her yet - at this age she will be completely new to the feelings of attraction and she's busy sorting them out in her head. At the moment she is probably "practice flirting" with you as part of this process - you are a nice guy and her best friends big brother so you are "nice and safe".
So remember, she isn't at the same stage of maturity as you. She'll probably be more ready when she's about 13 or 14 to tell the difference between someone she actually fancies and someone she thinks is a cool guy to play with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2008): At this point, yes the age difference does matter.
Once she gets to between 15 and 18, it doesn so much.
So go out with someone closer until then.
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reader, PsyCookie  +, writes (28 August 2008):
 It isn't really.
If you like, then just go for her. And good luck.
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