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*arah2121
writes:Hi guys, I just wanted some opinions on my situation. About three weeks ago I hooked up with a guy in a band (they were on tour). He gave me his number and we had been texting back and forth for about two weeks. He's not from my state so I went out on a limb and said 'when are you free to come down to X, to hang out'.He replied 'I should be free for the rest of the year, i'm going overseas soon, but after that, I will be down to party'.My question is, does that sound like he was keen to come and see me? He didn't give me a time frame or anything, but I don't want to hassle him. If I haven't heard from him in a month should I contact him again? I really like him, but don't want to sound like a desperate groupie haha
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reader, Caring Aunty A +, writes (17 July 2013):
 Just RELAX and take it easy, not every hook-up has to develop into a romance does it? He’s a free agent as are you to cruise the single scene without turning things into an appointment.
If he rocks up – great, he’s got your number. If he doesn’t, so be it, don’t hassle him. No doubt he’s busy with the Band and perhaps has other groupies to visit?
Either way you’re not committed to each other, just use common sense caution and when you over analyse his text, it does sound like you’re a keen (not desperate) groupie :)
Simply CHILL–AX, you’re both free agents
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2013): You are just another faceless number. He'll try to hookup with you next time he's in town. If he was interested, he would have given you more details of how to reach him, and when he would be available to see you. He'd text you ever other day.
A month has lapsed. That means he wouldn't remember you, if he walked up to you. You can multiply yourself times dozens of women who have hooked up with this guy, and he told them exactly the same thing. He thinks he's a player.
Sure, you might get a booty call out of the blue someday.
Hopefully, you'll be in the arms of some cool guy who really cares about you by then. If you're a smart woman.
Delete that sucker's number, and get on with your life.
I hope you use(ed) condoms! With guys like that, you'll either end up pregnant, or with an STD.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (16 July 2013):
 Another vote for "let it go"
he has your number if he wants you he will contact you.
word to the wise: NO SEX otherwise you will never know if all he wants is a booty call....
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (16 July 2013):
 I would just drop it, you hooked up and he gave you the most vague idea of when/if at all possible time he could/might be in your area again....
If he was really KEEN on seeing YOU again, he would try and be more specific and he wouldn't stop staying in contact.
Sorry.
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reader, SensitiveBloke  +, writes (16 July 2013):
 I wouldn't get too excited if I were you. If he was keen, he'd have said: "I'll ring you when I'm back in the area."
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (16 July 2013):
 Well... maybe he'll come down to see you. But I wouldn't get my hopes up that he's looking for a relationship or that even upon meeting you, he'll swoon and be turned from a tomcat to an inside cat. He sounds like he's "down to party", which means if he's really desperate to hook up, he'll come down to see you.
So, if you're okay with being one of his pit stops for some booty, then I'd say you've got a good thing going. But again, I really don't think I'd spend a lot of time investing in this guy for a relationship.
Good luck!
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