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writes:Me and this very close female friend go to different uni's. I went to meet her and was staying the night. There's only one room and was only one bed. I wondered where I would sleep.Later on she said that we can both sleep on the bed, she doesn't mind. I found this quite weird. And I noticed every time she spoke to me she's really close to my face. And it's not just me. She really does. She has this problem of touching my hand a lot as well or arm. She gets changed in front of me, walks around in her bra. She went out covered, comes back puts on this tank top that reveal her boobs. I have a lot of respect for this girl but I think she's acting real weird. I don't see us being in a relationship, we are too close as friends. Do you think she wants to be friends with benefits?Just to let you know I had to leave early due to emergency so didn't get to sleep.So what you all think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for reply guys. I really don't know. I just heard once a guy is in the friends category the girl doesn't see her as relationship material. I don't know how i feel myself. Next time i think more i talk to her about this maybe she'll open up but don't want it to be awkward. Any suggestions how to talk about a relationship or gettin physical?
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (3 January 2009):
You say you are not the only one she does this to, and to me that suggests that she is just comfortable with her body and sees you like a brother.
I have male friends that I would NEVER want to be with sexually but think nothing of cuddling up to and even sharing a bed with. It's just sleep, if someone else is a few feet away, that doesn't bother me.
You haven't really discouraged this in any way. You could have turned your back when she got changed or offered to sleep on the floor. You've just been ok with it all and she now thinks you are as comfortable with it all as she is.
If you want to make a move then do it and see what happens. If not then accept this is just who she is and stop being such a prude.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2009): Maybe she thinks of you as a girlfriend? I know that might sound wierd but I have male friends I think of as like girls. My best guy friend and I used to talk about what color bra I was wearing or weird things like that. It wasnt because I wanted him just because we were close and we talked about everything.
Just ask her what she wants.
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reader, pinkey1981  +, writes (3 January 2009):
My question is....Why do people think they are too close as friends to date? Do you not want someone that you can call your best friend in a relationship with you. Look, you gotta be friends before you date or else you walking into a mystery and that sometimes doesnt work out well. Her changing in front of you is a sign of trust and closeness. She reaches for your hand cause maybe she wants to be close to you. Stop with the whole shes my friend we cant date stigma, your only hurting yourself. Girls use that as an excuse to not date someone they consider a friend but wouldnt dare date. You want someone who is your best friend, someone you can trust and be close with and share your life with.
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reader, a_decent_1  +, writes (3 January 2009):
 Well,
The way she is reacting, i can't help but think that she is obviously seducing you into having sex.. No matter how close friends you become, nobody reveals her breast..
Stop having Respect for this girl.. She does not deserve it.
G'day
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2009): Well maybe she is really comfortable with you or maybe she likes you. She sounds a little like she wants something more than friendship.
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