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*amaicanMeCrazy08
writes:*OP's Original Title*First off. Yes, I'm in a long distance relationship. No, nothing you say pertaining to "oh its long distance, its not gonna work anyway" will make it into my head because I have been told that so many times and so has she. I was just having some questions and hoping some other people have had similar experiences or can share some insight. We have been dating off and on for almost a year. 2 weeks ago we are dating and she tells me she loves me and is planning kids names and stuff. Well she is bipolar and we argue a lot. She would put my name on the cell phone block list cause I would piss her off, but she would always take me off and start talking to me again. Anyways 2 weeks ago she was doing all that, now fast forward to last monday. We fought for a few days in a row. Then she breaks up with me. Now on Thursday she went on a date with a new guy and he asked her out. So they are seeing each other now and I was wondering what I should do. I really want to be with her and love her. She keeps telling me she doesn't want me out her life and that she wants to remain friends. Does this mean that she really just wants to be friends or she wants to keep options open with me in the long run? She always told me she wanted a future with me whenever I got out the Air Force. I just don't know what to believe. Idk if she is playing me or if she does still love me.
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reader, JamaicanMeCrazy08 +, writes (15 June 2010):
JamaicanMeCrazy08 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you all. Her number is out of my phone and she is blocked from my facebook. Thank you all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2010): It doesn't matter about the other guy does it? It is what they do, keep contacting you and trying to suck you back into the drama they are so addicted to. Move on, let her go and forget about all her drama, it's not worth it.
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reader, JamaicanMeCrazy08 +, writes (14 June 2010):
JamaicanMeCrazy08 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah. same thing i was thinking. i just dunno if she might be lying about that other guy cause she still contacts me frequently.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010): Part of the problelm is that you will not accept the truth...like the fact that long distance relationships have failure built into them, UNLESS, one of you moves to the other and closes the gap.
Instead of listening to her "words" which by the way are obviously meaningless, pay attention to her behavior...there in lies your reality and thus your truth.
It is interesting that you mention that your girlfriend is Bipolar. She may instead be borderline, many Borderline Personality Disordered women are mistakenly diagnosed Bipolar because bipolar is a chemical imbalance in the brain wich can be treated with medication and cured, whereas a personality disorder like Borderline cannot be treated through therapy or medications and is considered a lifelong condition. It means she has basically a bad character and she will have a history of intense unstable relationships, she can be prone to verbal abuse and angry rages and her romantic relationships are full of frequent arguments and breakups and you will either be put on a pedestal to be knocked down or devalued. They see things and people as either all good or all bad.
What ever her diagnosis, her behavior is one of instability, you are better off forgetting this one, forgetting trying to be friends because she will continue to jerk you around and make your life miserable. Move on, go no contact and find a healthy girl capable of a healthy relationship right there in your own town.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (14 June 2010):
 If she would still love you,would she be dating another guy ?
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