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writes:my boyfriend doesn't trust a word i say. he can finish with me whenever he feels like it and knows that i will have him back. he finished with me two months ago because all we do is argue. he promised that there was no chance of us getting back together and he had had more then enough. i chased and chased him - constantly calling and turning up at his work place which obviously pushed him away and made me look desperate.soon after i went out with my friends to a night club and danced with a man (not in a sexy way - there was quite a lot of space between us)i didn't kiss him or anything. my partner and i have been back together a month and yesterday he saw a picture of me and this guy on facebook. he looked full of sorrow and devastation and says he just can't trust me. the guy meant nothing to me but my boyf claimed 'he must have meant something to you to have his photo on faebook' i put it up before we got back together and forgot about it. he thinks that i've been unfaithful but he's the only one i've ever had a kiss, cuddle or anything sexual with since i got with him a year and a half ago.how can i make him trust me? is this just his way of being manipulative?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010): I do have to ask, why did you have that guy's photo on your facebook ( the one you danced with ) if he meant nothing ??.
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reader, BunnyTee  +, writes (14 June 2010):
 Well, one thing is crystal clear: your behavior demonstrates and makes you look MUCH more than "desperate", honey. It's downright stalker-ish! Geez, have some dignity!
You dance with some unknown guy and now you're untrustworthy? I think combined with your self-described stalking behavior AND the oh-so-incriminating photo evidence, *I* wouldn't trust you, either, frankly.
Showing up at someone's place of work is a bonafide deal breaker and completely uncalled for unless it's a genuine emergency. Flaky-stalker-girl behavior is NOT an emergency, it's failure to properly govern yourself. So get it together, sweetheart. Were this shoe on the other foot, I'd be telling him to get rid of your flaky ass, for good.
Sounds to me as though your b/f is trying to get you to convince him you didn't cheat on him. Lame and immature, but that's what it sounds like. Pull yourself together and forbid yourself from acting like a nutted-out loon the next time you break up.
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