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writes: I am infatuated with a woman I work with. We have kissed and cuddled but in a non sexual way. Neither of us are free. We have both agreed that casual sex would not be appropriate. The other day she arrived at work wearing a top which was quite revealing whereas she normally dresses very modestly.When I asked her if she wore that top for me she said yes but felt a little embarressed. She seems pleased that I love her but will not reveal her feelings for me, later she said that she would never have sex with me.I am hurt and confused - she is maybe trying to arouse in me a sexual desire for her but is at the same time indicating that that desire can never be satisfied. Do you think that she is wanting to encourage me to pursue her more intensely or that she just likes my attention and wants things to stay the same or maybe she wants to back off?
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reader, marie78 +, writes (14 November 2006):
What do you want? And after you figure that out, stick with your decision. If you want to end your current relationship and pursue this woman, then do so. She obviously likes you. However, if you feel she's a tease, then stay with your woman or look for someone else. Apparently, you aren't happy with your current love since you're thinking about another woman. Good Luck!
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reader, eddie  +, writes (12 November 2006):
 You're both on the road to heartache, yours, hers and everybody in your two families. At this time you're both at the teenage lustful level of the relationship. She shows her boobs, hopes you notice, you notice and say something, she blushes and pretends she's to shy to actually do anything. She's seeking attention and you've rewarded her by noticing.
You're both already in an amotional affair. It's one thing to be attracted to somebody. It's another to thing if you tell them about it. That's the point where you've lost control. You two should spend some time working on the relationships you have with the ones you've married.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2006): Well I am a little confused as well, you say you both agree that casual sex would not be appropriate as you are both in relationships, and you are furious with her for saying to you that she will never have sex with you?
The way she dressed with a revealing top may have had nothing to do with you, it seems to be a style in the US anyway that women are adopting even at work, but in my opinion is too revealing for the workplace, but hey I am no longer in my 20's so I was raised to think differently.
She may just like your attention, but pursue away if you must, she sounds like she is interested, but why you would want to jeopardize your jobs is beyond me, what will you do when and if the romance goes sour? Why do you want to both cheat on your spouses or relationships with each other at work, is your work that unfulfilling or are you just bored?
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