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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi, you can call me M I'm an 18 year old guy who has never had a girlfriend. I don't count myself as very good looking, I'm short and overweight, and this makes me very shy and nervous when talking to girls.One night I was in a club with my friends and met with a group of people who were friends with one of my friends. Of these people I instantly made friends with 2, a guy lets call him P, and a girl lets call her R. I noticed immediately that R was a little more than friendly holding hands and hugging a lot despite having only met just now. Initially I just put it down to her being drunk, but then it continued numerous times, and one time she even placed my hand on the inside of her leg.I grew attracted to her, and now find her very attractive, we've swapped numbers and dance together, often embracing each other. But then, I saw her doing similar stuff with P, they were very flirty with eachother, there was provocative dancing between the 2 and they just seemed like a couple.I was still new enough to them to just casually ask if they were going out to which the both denied.I can't work out if she was showing a genuine interest in me, or if she's actually more into P, or if she's maybe just flirty with all the guys.
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reader, katiekate  +, writes (22 March 2012):
 It sounds like she's just a flirt. If she just met you and she's all over you, and then all over someone else, it means that she is indiscriminate and wants attention from whoever will give it to her. She probably has low self-esteem and it boosts her ego to have the attention of multiple guys. Don't give in to this girl. Find someone who is interested in YOU, not just in the attention you give to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2012): If you're just looking for a quick hookup, she may be worth pursuing.
If you want a relationship with a partner who will be faithful to you, this girl does not sound like a good candidate.
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reader, Kyle007 +, writes (22 March 2012):
This type of woman makes for a very bad girlfriend. Best scenario: You go out on some dates, you get close, have lots of great sex and then watch her flirt with every guy in the place every time you go out, and the jealousy you have and her reasonable explanations of "I'm just like that" slowly drive you insane while she remains clueless.
Or maybe that is the worst scenario.
Without going into a real long explanation here, just remember this, an indisputable fact you have already observed:
THE ATTENTION OF ONE MAN IS NOT ENOUGH FOR HER.
Since you have not dated much you have not dated this type of woman yet. Spare yourself. Find someone real. Bars are not a good place actually.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2012): Sounds like she's a flirt who gets braver with drink. You don't know her that well so she's still a bit of a mystery.
I would say she probably likes you but how much I couldn't guess.You may think your not good very looking , but that sounds more like a lack of confidence.
I would watch her and get to know her better, then decide.
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