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writes:I am so confused and dont know what to do! My story is long but if anyone can help i will really appreciate it. it is puzzleing my mind and i really need some unbiased advice, but you must know the story before you can help. but PLEASE, PLEASE read it and tell me your thoughts.I cant figure this girl at all! I am sixteen and have had a couple of girlfriends, but nothing serious, so i have not "established" myself in the dating game yet.but this is not mt problem.My problem is this girl i really, really like. i feel like i need her in my life.i dont know the way she feels about me though.I have known her for two years and we have become decent friends. A few months ago, i told her about the way i felt, and she said "later on down the road".So i just stayed friends with her. and didnt bring up the issue until two months later, this time she said "a little more time". Ufortunately, i do not know when "Later on down the road" or "a little more time is".She might have just been trying to let me off without hurting me, but i am not sure. Here we are, 4 months after the first time i asked her out and she flirts with me. She is always staring at me and when i catch her looking, she gives me a shy smile and quickly glances away. Appearently she talks to her friends about me and they know how she feels, but i dont know them too well, so they wont tell me how she feels. I see her almost everyday and everytime i pass her in the hallways she either stops me to talk, or flashes her beautiful smile and says hi. And now, whenever i i kiss, hug, help other girls with homework, or even just talk to other girls, i can clearly see she gets jealous. I haven't kissed another girl since i asked her out, but it takes a while for some stories to circulate at our school.But then there is this part of the story. Whenever i ask her to hang out as friends, she always says she cant. i call them excuses, she swears they are the truth and she sounds worried that i wont like her anymore. She is a very shy girl and rarely talks to me on the phone, so out of school conversations are usually through texting, which worries me.but she is not a girl who would play games with a guy.So here are my questions, first off what do you think? Everyone has a different opinion to tell me, so no one has been able to help me yet. Does she like me? Is it later on down the road? Icant tell! Should i press the issue on further? i dont want to be the annoying guy who she is sick of. Please, any advice on this situation is really Appreciated. i really need help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2007): write her a letter explaining how you feel. Then tell her you are only going to ask her one more time, and if she says no, or later on again, tell her you're done. But explain to her that if there is a reason she says later like maybe she's not allowed to date yet? Then tell her you'll be there & to let you know when she's ready. Just do it, don't be afraid.
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reader, NJmomabear +, writes (27 April 2007):
 Haha, well if she is playing a game, she has got you right where she wants you. Is she seeing anyone else? If not and she gets jealous when you do then I would say yeah she definately likes you. The only thing that ever stopped me from picking up the phone when a famous guy wanted to date me was that I didn't feel confident and felt I would just ruin the attraction if I showed him how bad it really was for me. What is her home life like? Do you know anything about that? Is she embarrassed? Are there family issues? You need to dig deep. Not ask for her time, but just 'be friends' and try to figure out the why for yourself. Try to put yourself in her shoes.
That is a win-win situation. It will show you are interested in her as a human being when most boys your age just want one thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2007): Later down the road may or may not come. This age or any age is difficult to tell by what your explaining, my best advice I can give you is to move on and remain friends, find something else to focus on. Finding something else to focus on can win you more attraction than you may know, but don't choose to focus on another girl as this would look childish, that your trying to make her jealous. Life is too short to wait and wait for someone to notice you. Do something now in your life that will make you happy and take your mind off of the girl thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2007): Later down the road may or may not come. This age or any age is difficult to tell by what your explaining, my best advice I can give you is to move on and remain friends, find something else to focus on. Finding something else to focus on can win you more attraction than you may know, but don't choose to focus on another girl as this would look childish, that your trying to make her jealous. Life is too short to wait and wait for someone to notice you. Do something now in your life that will make you happy and take your mind off of the girl thing.
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