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anonymous
writes:hello everyonei am a bi girl, interested in this one girl in my karate class, she seems to like me, she makes intense eye contact and licks her lips a lot while doing so (but i think she's just a lip licker she does it a lot not just me), but the problem is she is verrrrry closed. i mean, i am not funny by any means, but she laughs so hard at my retarded jokes that i actually get embarrassed for her, as no one else is laughing, but she goes hysterical. i try to build rapport by chuckling along with her, and she just goes even more hysterical, so eventually i kind of walk away... ok so i recently changed my hairstyle drastically, dyed it, cut it way short, it's spikey and crazy, and she only comes to class like once every 2 weeks so when she saw it, this very closed, quiet girl who only talks to like 2 other girls (and not even that much), absolutely went nuts, she caused a whole scene in front of everyone, and was like "oh my god" so loud i didn't even see her come in, so i turned around and she like held her mouth all bug eyed and was like.. it looks sooo good bla bla bla i love it" then she just kind of held her mouth, and again, hysterical laughter, i again, tried to laugh with her and she just went overboard, again. is this a sign of nervousness? or insecurity?so i mean, yeah she's definitely eccentric, even in the way she dresses, and moves, and it's sooo sexy i can't stand it, but again she is soo closed, and such a mystery, all these things make it hard for me to stop thinking about her.it seems like she tries to open up to me, like she started saying hi to me well before i started paying much attention... but at the same time, she is very closed in the sense where if i ask her anyyy question about herself she doesn't respond, or responds very shortly, or gives very vague answers. like the most recent time, i asked how come she doesnt come to class often, at first she just looked away and tried to act like she didn't hear it, so i asked again in a way she couldn't ignore and she just stood there, and looked at me, i'm not even sure if she bothered to shrug...my question is... is this shyness? is she nervous? are these head games? or is she just a loon? and what on EARTH is the laughing about...? do any of you do this? i don't want people to be like, drop her, she sounds crazy, i mean, she IS really eccentric but that's PART of why i'm attracted to her, in combination with her beauty. i feel like there's an even more beautiful person that she is afraid to show and i'm just trying to figure her out before i make a fool of myself, or worse yet, scare her off.any insights on what her behaviour is all about? and any tips on how to penetrate her bubble or the clear wall she's built around herself. people say she could be vulnerable or seems like she's been hurt in the past... i don't knowthanks for reading this
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reader, AgonyAuntiee93  +, writes (4 December 2010):
i wouldnt say that she is crazy, i would say she is more nervous/shy?
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reader, xanthic  +, writes (4 December 2010):
 It sounds like she's very shy and a bit socially awkward, but the good thing is she managed to open up to you somewhat. With time she might open up more, as she gets to know you. The laughing bit is really odd, but I guess it could just be nervous laughter. People sometimes act strange when they're around someone they like.
One way to help her open up is by telling her a bit about yourself first. Start in with something, then ask her a question related to it (what she thinks, her opinion or if she likes the same things). She'll feel more comfortable if you're the one willing to open up first.
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