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writes:Does anyone here ever tried online dating? Does it ever work like you can expect something serious to come out of this?I am asking because I am about to try this out and would want to know if its worth the time and effort generally. If not I will abort this idea. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2009): I met my fiance, who I have been with for 2years and 9months, in an online chatroom. Neither of us were looking for love, we were just bored and happened to fall in love! It worked out great and we are getting married within the next year after I complete college. I love him to death and feel like I've known him my entire life and have never trusted anybody more than him. One downfall = he lives in arizona and I live in minnesota!
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reader, worriedgal  +, writes (8 August 2009):
Hi. I myself have had 4 boyfriends in my entire life, one eventually became my now husband and all of them I met online bar one who I met in the classified section of the newspaper. I have also met maybe like 30 to 40 other guys over the years from the internet as well. I'll sum up the the 30 to 40 first so you have an idea what you have to sift through first lol. I met a guy who told me he was the 2IC of microsoft and looked like Uncle Fester from the Adams Family, I met a midget indian, a guy from Afghanistan who told me he was Argentinian, a guy who told me he was 26 turned out to be 38, a guy who didnt like me but had met my cousin and asked me for her phone number, a guy who weighed 200kgs, an englishman with an obsession for teddy bears, a nigerian with an obsession for well...me really..oh and homeless guy who wrote emo style poetry and lived under the bridge. None of them hurt me or harmed me but they did open my eyes to the 3 guys I dated and the one I married. Of the four who were good, the first one I met in the classified section of the news paper, he called it off one month before the wedding over the phone. He was my very first boyfriend and the one who broke my heart so hurt the most. Then the second one i met on Plenty Of Fish, he was Italian like me, lasted three months and got scared off by my dad but I was cool cos wasnt that attached after 3 months, then there was the guy who made me pay for everything bought me a chocolate penis for my birthday and whinged about paying like six bucks for a toll road to come see me...yes those three were shocking but reasonable.My final meeting was my now husband. I met hin through lavalife which is an online dating site. We chatted online for a couple of days and then on the phone about a week before we met in person. We really hit it off. About six months into the relationship his lease on his flat ran out so he moved in with me, and on our one year anniversary he asked me to marry him, I said yes. Six months after our two year anniversary we got married in a nice traditional service, and in December of this year we will celebrate our one year wedding anniversary. We have been together for three years now and love each other just as much as the day we first met.I personally think the key to any relationship working regardless of how you met is taking the time to get to know that person before you rush into anything with them like moving in, marriage etc. When you get to know someone you build an image of them in your mind and its that image that helps you determine if you could spend the rest of your life with them. I am firm believer that you could meet the love of your life anywhere, a bus stop, on a train, at a park anywhere. The signs that they are the one might not be there straight away though so you just have to get to know people and if they are not it, then cut them loose because there is always going to be someone out there for you...always
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (7 August 2009):
 I met my husband on plentyoffish. We were friends for two weeks, went out for about one year, and have now been married for one year.
You might run into a few crazies, cheaters, users, etc., BUT look up some tips online for how to minimize this sort of thing.
I know a woman who refuses to meet anyone who doesn't have a pic. up. Maybe you could also get a webcam and get on cam with the person to see each other's faces, and also to test their motives. Meet them with a friend, that way you are safe. If you go off with them alone in their car, have someone write down their license plate number, or have a friend go with you. Or you could double date.
Watch out for nigerian scammers and other liars.
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reader, happytochat +, writes (7 August 2009):
If by online dating, you mean using a online dating website to start chatting to guys and then eventually meet them? then yes it can work. However if you chat to guys far away and never meet them, then it probably wouldnt work becuase having a long distane relationship with someone you have never met isnt real.
So yes it can work if you meet the guy eventually- after you have had MANY online chats and phone calls and feel comfortable enough to meet him. Remember to tell someone where you are going, when and when you will be home. Might be a good idea to get someone to check up on youthroughout your date by snding you a message? Or make it a group date.
Also remember to meet in a public place- like a cafe during the day. Dont go to a night club (as everyone will be to drunk to see your in danger if you happen to be) and dont let him pick you up or go back to your house on the first date. Wait a while.
Good luck!
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reader, MistressNataliee  +, writes (7 August 2009):
I met my boyfriend on a free dating site and weve been together 5 month and i have never felt happier :).
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