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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes: I HATE my boyfriend's friend. We've been together for over a year now, he only met his new friend less than a year. We're 20 and 21, his friend is 30something. They met accidently when I threw some stuff out by curb for free and boyfriend was coming home from work at same time this guy came by. Being a sweetie my boyfriend was, he talked to this guy, convinced him to buy couple things, bla bla. Weeks later, all of the sudden they were hanging out, smoking weed (Bf used to, quitted, doing it again due to this friend). I always get so annoyed, I hated that he was hanging out late with this guy, even stayed up all morning to drink and do weed, his buddy got a KID at home with his gf, HE SHOULD BE THERE WITH HER, not wasting his money or using my bf to get weed. He's 30, has no friends of his own, and I recently was able to show my bf that he was ONLY around when he wanted to hangout with my bf, if my bf wanted to, he couldnt. Anyway, I finally spazzed out, saying he couldnt come in our place anymore because I didn't want to see him, that worked, till last night. He came over, my friend was also over, we were all watching a movie when I realized my bf had left the place so I went outside, freaked out I didn't see his car (thought he was drinking and driving) asked if anyone know where he went, my friend said no, his friend ignored me. I screamed at him to get out of my place and threw his shit out, he still sat his ass ignoring me. This guy PISS me off. My bf came back, apparently walking our kitten, I told him how much a dumbass his friend was and I wanted him OUT. Fine, they went out in backyard, few minutes later, apparently his friend brainwash my bf into thinking I was against HIM, rather than his friend. His friend started yelling AT ME that I was treating my bf like shit and bla bla, hello? It was HIM I was telling to get out, nothing to my boyfriend. He yelled bunch of things too which I ignored, he left with my bf driving him home I guess. After my friend left, my bf did snuggle with me in bed. I have yet to talk about last night yet and I don't know what to say anymore.I don't mind his other friends though they're bad too but this guy... he comes out of no where, judge our relationship (even trying to break us up before) and NOT a true friend. I did tell my bf that, he realized that, got his way but with him again, argh. HELP!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2009): I don't get why they would do this unless they are having sex with each other or something, or this guy is blackmailing your man with some information that he knows about him.
Or maybe your bf feels lonely for some male companionship, I mean like a friend, cos his other friends have gotten busy or something? I know that you are trying to help him, but only he can choose his friends. You do however, get to decide who is in your house. Keep standing firm. Eventually your bf will see who this guy really is.
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