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writes:My husband flirts with other girls...Acc to him nothing wrong in it.am the one who think inappropriate...I love him a lot.for this behavior am feeling very angry..till now. He did not do any mistake...but. If. He really loves me,why would he does like this...want to take revenge by flirting with others...
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reader, CSP +, writes (17 October 2013):
There are a couple reasons why he would do that... It makes him feel desirable/ attractive; he's trying to show you that he's desirable to other women (causing you to ask for help here); or he has low self worth (low self esteem). The last is the one has the highest risk of infidelity.
Have a serious talk with him. Also, remember that most men would not want their wife to either flirt or cheat. Men know they will lose that game.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2013): Sure he must be pissed about something in the past that is why he is flirting. Or just maybe he has had enough with you and is shopping around for somebody to fill your shoes. You havent give enough background info to make a informed proper answer. All i know is that any man that flirts a lot is doing more than seeking revenge, its called shopping for somebody or thing different. Good-luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2013): hii...am the op who posted the question..
i want to take revenge on him by flirting with his frnds...he did the same thing 2 yrs back with 1 girl...he made continuous eyecontact 24/7 whenever we met in parties...but he didnot do any other mistake like touching...but since 3 months he started with other girl who is married..she started it first,he is playing well,..other than this we dont have much problems in our marriage...but this act driving me nuts...
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (14 October 2013):
 I have to ask too, revenge for what?
I presume he was a flirt BEFORE you married and you expected him to totally change? Did he know that BEFORE marriage?
Also there is flirting, light banter and hitting on women. The first two are pretty much harmless, but if he is hitting on them I can see why it upsets you, flirting/banter? Not so much.
I would try and just ignore it, maybe he DOES think it's fun to get you going (revenge as you call it) maybe it's just second nature to him.
You could TALK to him about it, that means no nagging about it or throwing fit, but telling him how it makes you feel. Or you could try it yourself and see how he likes it.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (14 October 2013):
 He flirts with women because he likes the attention and wants to keep his options open. It isn't an act of revenge but he's quite happy to let you think it is because in his mind it absolves him of any wrong doing.
OP, men who openly flirt with other women despite having a wife or girlfriend are not long term partner material and the flirting is usually only one of their many serious flaws.
OP, I know this isn't what you want to hear, but I can't recall ever coming across a situation like yours that ever worked out. People like your husband just can't be trusted and counselling doesn't seem to help.
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reader, KC12 +, writes (14 October 2013):
 I wonder why he does this as revenge. It could be a sign he wants to control you.
I think you should talk to him about it, and you are right. If he really loves you why would he behave this way?
It's disrespectful to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2013): Revenge for what ?? Has sown thing happened prior to him now flirting ? My husband is a habitual flirt he cannot help himself .. We're standing in a queue and the cashier is openly flirting with him .. To me I laugh this isn't big drama stuff, if he eyed her as in up and down that would be an issue . He would soon be finding out that I could do the same to him haha ..If you don't like it and he won't stop it .. Your only other thing to do is play him at his game if he flirts so can you .. And tell him when he does ' go oo ? ( put his name) is that you flirting again, sure people are gonna get the wrong idea' haha keep it light .. If however there more to the story than this, maybe you could expand a little moreHope this had helped .
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