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writes:Does my husband still love me? We have been married for 12 years and I feel as though he doesn't love me anymore, he has put himself on chat websites and I just don't know what to think anymore, please help Reply to this Question
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reader, happy140  +, writes (20 October 2010):
 I know that years ago when I went to chat sites it was because I felt I did not get enough attention from my wife. It was I that was the problem and it took awhile before I figured that out. I chatted to fantasize about other women wanting me. It boiled down to one thing-I did not give her the attention she needed so she pulled away from me. I told her in an argument one day that she just did not act as if she loved me. She did not initiate sex, she did not want to hold my hand she did not want me touching her all the time. Well that I found out was crap. It was what I read into the picture. After our conversation SHE became more physical, always wanting to be near me which made me want to be closer to her. It is that old saying about the 5, 10 15 year itch. We want something different. Men are so visual that when we see other woman we look, sometimes we wonder what if? Show him as often as you can that he is as important to you as you want him to be towards you. See if that helps, it did me. I just needed to be sure I was desired, I knew I was loved but desired? I have since left the chats for sites like this and now am always groping my wife and she loves it. Yes it sometimes is annoying but she knows she is DESIRED! He dosen’t love you less hes just missing something and as a man, I WILL TELL YOU sometimes we have NO CLUE when we pull away or why. When its pointed out to us or we finally get it we know how to fix it, we just didn’t know it was broken. You kneed to tell him your feelings of being desired physically and emotionally are broken.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (20 October 2010):
The time has come for you to sit down with him and talk to him. Explain that you're worried he has been pulling away, putting himself on chat sites and such, and explain you want the both of you to put more effort into your marriage. Chances are this is a blip just at the moment, so you need to talk to him and get things back on track.
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