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writes:hello im 19 and its been a few months since iv been meeting up with my old best mate from high school weve always been gud mates and weve told each other a lot of secrects, but recently iv been starting to have feelings for him. Iv felt this way before about him, but i swollowed them and they went away wen we lost touch, but now we bk to seeing each other nearly every day those feelings have come back, but even stronger. I dont know what to do wether to tell him or not cause i carnt stand this pain much longer. We went out the other night with some of my work friends and they were askin him wether he was my boyfriend when he said no, they asked why n he said i dont know n that he made a mistake goin out with a friend before. He told me what he said why we were alone afterwards, does this mean his thought about it, but doesnt want to acted on it.Im so confussed and its getting me down what do i do?xxx Reply to this Question
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reader, lovestruk07 +, writes (4 October 2008):
lovestruk07 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for both ov those responses its kinda hit home wot i gota do, but its facing the music i dont know wetha i can do it its the whole gettin regected thing i dont think ill ever loose him as a friend arghhh men but yh your both rite i should just tell him i dont know wetha i will i know i need to, but im not a very confident person maybe a drunken night mite be the push i need lol thanks anyways
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reader, ssuzanne  +, writes (4 October 2008):
I suggest you tell him how you feel. Remember to explain to him that you have felt this before for him. Do not let him feel you want him to say he feels the same way. He may not feel as strongly as you do, but it may get him thinking about his feelings for you !
Do not try to change the relationship. Relax as you have got the weight off your chest. Keep going as friends and if he too has special feelings for you the relationship will very naturally evolve into something special.
In a relationship beings friends is very important, as important as having specail feelings for each other.
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reader, shiraz +, writes (4 October 2008):
hiyah, its a really hard situation when somebody you had those feelings for comes back into your life, it changes everything. the thing is your older now and its up to you how to act on it. i cant tell you how to go about it because i dont know the ins and outs all as i can say is if youve been mates dor so long maybe you should talk it through with him, he seems scared of loosing you as a friend which is why he wont show a relationship side of him, if you want it to work reasure him on that.
Dont let it get you down you handled your life well for all those years but now hes back its all a mess, you need to sort it. youve got so many emotions going on that its bound to feel stronger. he didnt freak when your mates asumed you as a couple he handled it cooly which shows maybe now hes more mature he can handle your feelings a bit more. i think you really need to talk to him in order for any of it to work, the feelings will only deepen so find out sooner rather than later to save from any pain in the long run. your gunna have to just go for it i know its risky but theres only one way you cant guess his mind! your friends keep that in mind there needent be a frindship wasted here if you go the right way about it, hell respect you more for that, dont be afraid of his reacion.
im sorry this is long and hasnt helpped much but your not alone in it! best of luck hope it goes ok x :)
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