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*.D.B
writes:recently i started high school, and i am in the same form as them (theres 2 of them), but theve found a new friend and i can tell she hates me by the way she looks at me and behind her back they dont link arms with me any more and there totally anoying me, i dont really know what to do?and they dont want any thing to do with me,and do you know what the saddest part is? its when im there and somthing really funny happens and then we get in class and they tell me what happens because they ignored me and they diddnt think i was there, and i've tried getting new friends but every one else has someone else and now weve been there a month its really annoying me!!!!please help me!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, D.D.B +, writes (6 October 2008):
D.D.B is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your answers, but I cant make friend with the boys in my form because I dont really know any of them, but some of my other friends in another form who have a simalar time table to me have decided to take me in and they are being really nice to me but i cant go on like this, any more advise??????
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reader, Cyberwit  +, writes (4 October 2008):
Hi there.Sounds rough whats going on at school.They seem jealous these girls and the others have their close friends and seem not to be willing to let you into their groups.Is this something you would do to another girl yourself - if not it seems your are a bit of an outcast.HEY thats not a bad thing. Seems you could be a cut above the rest, like simply just better.We are taugh today to see everyone as equal, but they simply just are not always.These girls are bitchy(weak), jealous(weak), or scared(weak)or simply just don't understand you, which again is not your problem.Being better than them does not mean you have to look down on them or behave like you better than them, just maybe feel a bit of pitty for them. Its just meant to give you the warm feeling that you are a better person.However, the way people see you may be the reason. I know this girl - known her for 9 years now - we good friends. she always hung around with guys because she said she could never get on with most girls. When we went out to clubs and parties - coz we woked together - she would say all the girls were looking at me funny and they hated me - WELL I didnt like that because I only hang around with nice people.But it was obvious to me what was going on. You see my friend was very self concious, she is also very beautiful and tall and very strong in her appearance (not muscle wise) Her self conciousness made her want to seem greater in everyones eyes.Other girls who didnt know her found her very intimidating and so took an emediate, challenging disliking to her which made her puff out her chest even more Its taken me years to show her this. The boys love her to bits.Try this - Speak to someone whom you trust and who is intellegent and someone who likes and loves you - maybe mom or a sister or a councellor. Ask them if you are perhaps giving of the impression that you are better than everyone else or some other impression.If this doent help - make friends with boys.You will always find friends somewhere if you strive to be a good person yourself - that is for sure.Good Luck my dear.
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reader, ssuzanne  +, writes (4 October 2008):
Dealing with new friendships in high school can be difficult.
I suggest you don't try so hard to fit in. Instead focus on adjusting to the high school studies. Try to participate in extra curricular activities. You will meet many more students like yourself with similar interests. You will find that these antics of your new friends will not bother you any longer. In fact when they see you are no longer bothered with their childish actions they too will start treating you differently.
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