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writes: Dear Cupid, I broke up with my girlfriend just over 3 weeks ago. Basically we haven't been on speaking terms till last Friday night. We spoke on the phone and we really did click. It felt like the old days again. However I invited her to a party that I was going to. So we started to get drinking and eventually we did start kissing. I think she was trying to put me off though before she was drunk. However at the end of the night she told me she still has feelings for me. But she said there is another guy that she likes and he has asked her out. But she turned him down. She still has feelings for me and I have feelings for her. What should I do? Move on or try and rekindle those feelings because she obviously is holding on for something?This topic is puzzling both me and my ex-girlfriend. Please people help me out.
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reader, fairyangel  +, writes (5 February 2006):
 Hi again,
Well, in answer to your next question...
She is obviously wanting an open relationship & is not willing to commit to you exclusively, so you are unfortunately wanting different things...
As you are not happy to have this arrangement, it would be wise to call it quits and not persue her any further,
as you will end up having a one sided relationship, where you are investing more into the relationship than she is willing to, and this is not good.
Hope this helps?
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reader, Barnzy +, writes (5 February 2006):
Barnzy is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for your answers, The situation has gotten better however i need more advice.
Ive continued to show her a gd time, and its worked. But i asked her out but she says she wants everything i want apart from me being able to call her my girlfriend. I really want to be in a relationship where i can call her my girlfriend, i really do not want an open relation coz thats pointless. What should i do? Any advice?
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reader, Virginiaac +, writes (5 February 2006):
What have you done to her to make her feel so unsure? Yes she likes you, but she has serious misgivings. OPnly time will tell if you are compatable. For the moment, keep trying.
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reader, fairyangel +, writes (5 February 2006):
well, you both still have feelings for each other... this you have established..
She got asked out by another guy & she turned him down..
She chose to tell you about this, when she didn't really have to.
I think it would be safe to say that she is testing you to see what your reaction would be.
The question is... what made you break-up with her in the first place? And have you resolved this problem with her?
You need to sort that out with her first, so the two of you can resume your relationship together with a fresh start, or you might find yourselves re- hashing old problems from the past.
Hope this has been helpful to you in some way.
Good luck & all the best for the future.
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