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writes:I know you’re all going to think I’m being childish here, but please hear me out. I’m 18, and very mature for my age. Last year, I met my college lecturer, and we hit it off straight away. There was one point though where I got close to this boy and my teacher started being harsh to me and him. The same week I finished it with the boy and we drifted apart, and my teacher started being nice again. Whenever a boy at my college got close to me or flirted, he would get very moody with me. I got the tag name of teachers pet, because he would let me get off with everything. I would find him staring at me from the other side of the room.He is always complimenting me, for example one day I came in with a different hairstyle and he was saying how lovely it was and touching it. Then someone else had theirs done, and he didn’t bother saying anything to her. He’s always touching/flicking my hair and saying how nice my perfume smells. I have him this year and we have gotten closer. One time something was upsetting me and he told me, they have to go through him to get to me. He’s very protective of me, and at first I thought he saw me as a daughter figure, but now it seems that he wants something more. He knows that I fancy him (well last year) and he made it worse by getting closer.There are so many other things he does, but I’m not going to bore you any longer. We do flirt a lot, especially the whole bickering thing that students have in high school/college. I’m just confused about what this teacher wants. Does this guy have a crush on me, or is he just being a teacher? Thank you for reading.
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reader, Drat001 +, writes (16 February 2011):
Like I said, it sounds like he's trying to hit on you, but if he really has been treating you negatively because of jealousy when you're NOT in a relationship with him, he's very likely going to be abusive to you if you are in a relationship with him. Watch him carefully, and run at the first sign of abuse (and not just physical, no physically abusive man starts beating on his girl until he's already broken her mentally). The whole reason there's laws in place to make it illegal for teachers/professors to have relationships with their students is to prevent the abuse of power. It might be that he's trying to do that with you. Be careful. Don't even agree to have coffee with him until you're no-longer in his class.
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reader, xiceprincessx +, writes (16 February 2011):
xiceprincessx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know he isn't married and he isn't with anyone because he's made comments meaning that he's not in a relationship.I just wanted to know really if he did like me more than a student.Thank you for your advice and others are welcome to comment on this post
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2011): it looks like he does want something else by what you have described. I would try to ignore him because he is a teacher and cannot get involved with a student in a sexual way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2011): Hello it sounds like you really might have something there although youll have to make sure he does really like you before you try and get more involved. Make sure hes not just taking advantage and that hes not just taking a young vunerable girl for a ride. I think you should find a nice oppertunity where you can be alone with him and confront him. Before you do this make sure hes not seeing anyone. Remember what your risking if he does like you he could be risking his job. Hope ive helped good luck! x
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reader, Drat001 +, writes (12 February 2011):
The fact that he's treating you badly when he's not in direct control of your life (if there's someone else you're seeing, and such) should be a warning to you that if you have a relationship with this man, your lecturer, he will be controlling, and possibly abusive, if not physically verbally/emotionally. My advice to you is to finish the guy's class, don't take any more classes with him, and stay away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2011): I would leave well alone. You don not say how old he is, married etc. But if you have a relationship with him, can you imagine how awkward it would be if it ended in tears. That would be my thought. If you must, wait until you are finished at college and you can just walk away if it doesn't work out.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 February 2011):
 Ok well it does sound like he is flirting with you and that he does have feelings for you. But just remember he knows were his place is and he knows he cant get involved with a student therefore he will probably not make anymore advances to you. Yes he may like you but up until you are no longer his student he knows nothing can happen therefore I really dont think that he will try anything on with you as am sure he does not want to lose his career.
I think the best thing you can do hear is accept that as long as you are attending the college nothing can ever happen between the both of you. Therefore if you accept this you will not be setting yourself up to be hurt and heartbroken. Once you are no longer a student and if you still like him then tell him after you graduate and see how things go then. Gooduck Sweetie.
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