A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Ive been going out with my boyfriend for about 6 months now but im worried that he dosnt love me as much, We are in a long distance relationship as i live in one part of the country and he lives in another so we dont see each other all the time, i always say i miss him but sometimes dosnt say it back, he does text me everyday and still calls me hunny when we chat but he use to say love you to me but now i always have to say it first to him to make him say it to meIs it just me thinking the worst or is he losing interest?
View related questions:
long distance, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, k_c100 +, writes (3 February 2012):
 This is just part and parcel of a LDR I'm afraid, and if you want it to work you have to get over your insecurities and stop over-analysing every text/word he says.
LDR's mean your contact is online/phone etc rather than face to face, so often it is hard to judge tone of voice etc through a text, so it will be easy for you to feel like he may be going off you. When the reality is completely different!
Try not to over-think things, at the end of the day he is still with you, still calls you honey, still texts daily and still says he loves you too. Typically after the first few months together the levels of romance and sweet words die down a little, this is natural in relationships.
Relax and stop worrying - it sounds like everything is fine.
I hope this helps and good luck!
A
female
reader, AbigailBradbury +, writes (3 February 2012):
 we can't tell you the answer to this as we will never know what he's thinking. It does sound a little worrying, although don't think that it is.
Guys sometimes just stop say i love you, its a guy thing. They think once they say it the once, we'll never need to hear it again haha stupid i know.
you really need to speak properly to him about this, face to face so that he can't change the subject or dodge the question. If you seriously look into his eyes you'll know instantly whether he loves you or not.
Like i said, you need to ask him. Just explain how you feel and how you know being apart is difficult and if he can't commit then to tell you.
A lot of men in Long distance relationships like having a girl to talk to and share everything with, knowing they can tell them everything because they wont see them often, but the case is sometimes that they'll find someone closer to them for their physical needs...
This may not be the case for your boyfriend. Me and my boyfriend were long distance for a year and a half, once saw each other once a month for 2 days. We made it work and 3years on live together and have a gorgeous daughter. It can work. But you need to know he's commited. its scary if you're so young but you have to be willing to commit in a long distance relationship otherwise it wont work my love xx
...............................
|
