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writes:I have been seeing a wonderful man for 20 months now and we have had a few problems with his former spouse as they have remained very close friends. However, in the last month he has called me by her name 2 times (not in bed) just while we were out shopping or going to a family event. He tries to reassure me that there is no physical or sexual attraction and they are simply friends because of their daughter. Is he innocently thinking of her in past situations or is there a possibility he isn't over her deep down inside?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2009): I did that to my girlfriend many years ago about 5 times over several months and she did it to me once. She only did it once because she stopped calling me by name. When you have been with someone for years the name just sticks in memory, especially if they are still friends and still talk. By the way, that woman has been my wife for 23 years now.
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reader, Mr.Insignificant +, writes (29 July 2009):
 I think these are just innocent mistakes. It sounds like he has an active relationship with her for his daughter's sake. Has he ever called you by his daughter's name?
He has three women active in his life: His daughter, you, and his ex wife. I wouldn't make too much of it although I understand that it does hurt. you have brought it to his attention and he is aware of it. I am sure he is sensitive to it now. As a man that has also made this mistake, it will go a long way once you get this right in your head, you tell him not to stress out too much about it and that you understand.
Good luck!
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