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female
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36-40,
*onfusedndepressed
writes:I am 23 and I have been living in London for more than 2 years. I was initially here to complete my degree, but I fell in love with a nice English boy. We met 2 years ago and are living together now. We have a wonderful relationship and we are even planning to get married, in order for me to stay in the country. At the moment I am struggling to make ends meet and I am earning barely enough to pay my rent and phone bills. My boyfriend does not earn much, but he pays phone bills and living expenses whenever I cannot afford to.I had several jobs, but they did not work out. I am now working for myself and it is extremely stressful and tiring. I have always been good at what I do, be it studies or work, so naturally I feel helpless and lost when things don't go as planned. I feel like I am going nowhere with my career in London and everyone keeps telling me how much better off I would be back home. My boyfriend flatly refuses to move away from London.It also doesn't help that I feel homesick and that I don't have any friends or family in London. I don't go home often as it is a 20 hour journey on the plane and costs around 600 pounds each time I go home. I went home recently and that made me miss my family even more. I am worried about my future in this country. My boyfriend thinks I haven't tried hard enough and that I expect everything to happen overnight. On the other hand, my family and friends keep telling me that things are obviously not working out and I should consider other options, e.g. going home. Both points of view are obviously very biased.I don't know what to do right now. I know deep down that it is better for me career wise to go home, but I really don't want to lose him. He has made it very clear that our relationship will be over if I leave. I love him very much and I am even prepared to marry him, but I don't want to be blinded by love and make the wrong decision.Does love conquer all, or will the lack of money and career stand in the way of love?
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reader, nononsense  +, writes (16 February 2011):
Go Home Darling!!! You are young and You are sacrificing WAY more than this guy. You aren't married and have no obligation to each other. I want to say that love conquers all when both parties are willing to sacrifice equally. When there is unequal sacrifice, then love does not conquer. Youve already answered the question. Trust me. A few years from now, you will wonder why you were taking a chance on this guy. Good luck, I wish you great success in your career and future.
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