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writes:I'm not sure how too go about finding out that question. So, I thought I'd come here and ask for advice after I told you part of the situation. We started dating in Feb 09' we've known one another for nearly a yr and a half before that. It was the best kind of love, the I'm head over heals and we'd talk about the future and how happy both of us were all the time. About 3-4 weeks ago she started acting weird and I asked her what was wrong, now ok so I didn't mention she's in the military so it was long distance. We had made plans a couple weeks before that for me too fly down and spend 4 days and 3 nights, thats the only kind of leave she could get. Her problem was she felt we were jumping in to things and going way to fast and I told her it's ok we can slow down if she really thinks that, and there is stuff she's never done on her own, but she reassures me that we're together and love one another. So than I come down there, and she tells me about being deported in Oct when she was due home, for 6 months to 2 yrs and that it would be unfair to have me waiting around and she now feels she can't commit 100% to the relationship but yet she still loves me but she wants to be friends at least for right now. But when I ask her if you come home are we going to be together again? she says she hopes so.She still calls me all those sweet names and tells me she loves me and that she misses me, but someone told me that if someone is really in love with you they wouldn't try to demote you to just friends. However, she's obvioussly going through a lot of stuff and I'm not making excuses I just trust her and love her too death and I know feelings don't fade over night and if there is any truth to what I believe that we're meant to be and all my visions of the future of her and I are true than she does still love me..but why am I questioning this? is it just stupid insecurities? because Im completly devastated...or am I right to be questioning "is she still in love with me?"
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much, that was sincere and clarifying, and makes so much more sence than what was previoussly told to me. Must just be my stupid insecurities. I know she loves me. Because I trust her.
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reader, arie +, writes (17 May 2009):
 to me if she was infering to be friends then she wasent probley feeling your relationship. she probley wants to be friends to keep u in her life but dosent want to hurt you but dosent know how to tell you. i suggest u sit her down and talk to her face to face about the situation and tell her how u feel about it and get a straight answer because too me u seem like a great guy and u dont need a girl leading you on. if she just wants to be friends just move on but dont go looking for another girl let her find you. but if the girl gives you a straight answer put your foot down and make sure that she is fully committed to the relationsship cuz if she aint, kick her butt to the curve. i hope u like my advice and good luck in the future and godbless.
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