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writes: Hi I'm 22 nearly 23. I'm a mother of 2 and third one is on the way. My fiancee is nearly 30 and I think my husbund is cheating on me. I'm 7 months pregnant and he hasn't touched me since he found out bascially.He goes out till late, not calling and phone switched off and tells me it's work drinks. He gets texts and phone calls and tells me they're all private and I feel like I'm going crazy, he doesn't seeem to find me atrractive or intresting, he doesn't listen to what I want, he puts his work first and we dont ever talk.WHAT THE HELL DO I DO? I feel like I'm going crazy and I don't know what to do.please help !!! xx
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reader, jay12toes  +, writes (28 December 2008):
 you need to calmly sit him down and ask him what you need to know. Dose he still love you? dose he still find you attractive? is he really going out for drinks at work? you need to find out these answers from him and then you need to tell him how you feel and what you need from him, and that he shouldnt keep his phone off because you might need him in an emergency.
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reader, lostone +, writes (28 December 2008):
Hi, I'm sorry for what you are going through. This kind of behavior would be stressful enough without being pregnant to help add to that stress!
If I were you, yes, I would be suspicious, but he might not be cheating or it might not have come to that yet. He could be out with guy friends just relaxing but there is still some big problem that is causing him to act this way.
You say you don't talk anymore. Try breaking the ice by asking how everything is going with work and all or anything that he finds interesting that might start a conversation. Then steer the talk towards the problem at hand. Ask him if there is anything wrong and what you can do to remedy it. Ask him if he is happy and what he wants. If he opens up to you, then you can explain to him what you want and hopefully those two things will not be conflicting or you can reach a compromise. The important thing is to stay calm, just talk to work out the problem and don't get upset. And do not accuse him of cheating or suggest it at all unless you have definite proof otherwise you will just put him on the defensive and he will close himself to you.
I hope that this helps and wish you luck with what happens!
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