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writes:I've been married 8 years and my wife left me in December saying she can't cope any more. I want her back with our 5 children, she's only 27 years old and I love her and our children very much. It's been a very lonely xmas, she has put herself and our children in the care of social services what can I do to get her back? I am cracking up without her.[Added from the same user]my wife leaving me in Dec more info.we fell out on the 2nd nov i got her up out of bed at 3pm because i had made her dinner she got up sat down then throw the dinner over me called me a b....d then i pushed her away into a gate my kids are screaming at the table,she has told social services that i have and keep beating her up but i havent and i am sure you have heard it all before but i havent and never would ok i might have been a bit hard on her about the house work but i cant do everythingn i do my bit i clean cook what more can i do[Moderator's note: Please post further updates at this page! It is not possible for the answerers to match a misplaced update with an initial question, given the large number of questions we receive. Therefore it will benefit you more if you post any comments related to a certain situation at the same page. Thank you.] Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2008): Dear Poster
I agree with the previous uncles and aunts; there must have been some very good reason why your wife and five children turned to social security for help; please advice us with the details and we can try to help you; but, it is also obvious that you are starting to feel alone and that you are missing them; it is a good start that you are reaching out for help; but I do believe you have more issues and problems to deal with and that it is not just about being being alone, missing your family; we cannot guess these problems and cannot reach out to advice or assist you if you are not telling us; we want to help you but you need to be willing and prepared to be completely honest with us; only if we have more insight can we get a perspective of the "bigger" picture. No matter what the issues or problems; we are not here to judge you; we can all can make mistakes; the secret is that we learn from our mistakes and what we do to avoid making them again and to correct the mistakes made in the past (if we can).
I am looking forward to an update from you with more information and then we will gladly try to assist you with more advice.
Best wishes and lots of SMILES.
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reader, pgissyd  +, writes (28 December 2008):
 why did she leave you? sounds like she was afraid of you, did you hurt her? control her? cheat on her? threaten her? social care... sounds like she feels you treated her pretty badly. and as alone as you are right now. have a care for how afraid and alone she is feeling right now too. sorry but Im with your wife and kids on this. especially since you have told us nothing of why/how she left. how she felt, etc. its all about how sad you are.
so elaborate, allow us some more info on the situation and maybe we can offer you some advice. its a big step for you to ask for help. so we wont all jump down your throat. as long as you are honest with us you will be honest with yourself. and thats the most important step to getting life back on track.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (28 December 2008):
Through this entire question you have only mentioned how you want her back because YOU are upset.
You haven't told us why a woman would throw herself on the mercy of the social services rather than stay in a house with you through Christmas.
Figure out what you did wrong, change and then go and beg her to return.
Good Luck!! xx
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