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writes:Confused? What went wrong?I met a guy online about 8 months ago. He lives out of town but comes into town for business and we have seen each other about 4 times. The last time was christmas. Although, our relationship has been a bit of a yo-yo, I like him more than he likes me and then vice-a-versa. We remained in contact over the past few months. But, I sensed he was pulling away. He is new to the city he is living in now (small town) and has developed a rather busy social life (compared to his old town). But, then out of the blue I got the most amazing card and gift from him for Valentines Day. We chatted and talked about seeing each other...but when I hung up I sensed things were different. Since, then we have texted a few times but I was the one who initiated. I am leaving for a business trip for 10 days on Tuesday and haven't heard from him for about 4 days. I think he may have met somoene else -- guessing of course.BTW,I am 10 years older than him. Perhaps, that has something to do with it?I can't stop thinking about him and don't want to contact him. Perhaps, he's just not that into me? :-(Should I contact him before I leave? Or take the fact that he hasn't been in contact as his way of telling me it's over.
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reader, sha9991  +, writes (21 February 2011):
Hi,
I think the main problem here is the distance,that's it! I think he really likes you and was interested,but he wants someone he can see more frequently and lives near to him,so he can have a stable relationship,you guys can't see one another that much,it does sound like he is interested in someone else who lives nearer to him,so he is slowly losing interest now,but it's not to late,cuz he did send you a Valentines card,so he is still showing the interest is still there,but if you don't act now,you might not get one next Valentines day!
My advise is talk to him about how you are feeling? not by text,it's easier to get how your feeling across on the phone,if you really like him and he says it's just the distance,if he is worth it? then fight for him,before he gets serious with another,then you have lost your chance and be kicking yourself! move to be nearer to him,life is to short and sometimes it's to easy to just not make a change,we all should do things out of our comfort zone now and again!
I hope I have helped? All the best!
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reader, No watered down advice here!  +, writes (21 February 2011):
 My thoughts on that is this; It doesn’t matter how busy a person is they will find time to call or text someone they’re interested in. The fact he sent you a sweet card, was a nice jester, but it could mean; I know you’re into me, and the least I can do is sent you a card! I rather not be patronized I rather be #LOVED! Age difference shouldn’t matter if the interest is there, it’s there and when it’s not it’s not. The mere fact you’re writing this letter let’s me know, in your heart you know he’s just not into you, not the way you would like for him to be. Real men make time for the woman they like or love. Find someone who will no matter what, keep in touch regularly. I wish you well!
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