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writes:hi just a quick question. Ok if a guy decides he wants to stay single, through choice do you think that if he met someone he really liked and had feelings for that he may change his mind and give it a go? Like if he knew that the person he liked had feelings for him. I don't mean change their mind straight away but when the time came that they would not see each other anymore lets say because of leaving school, college or job? Because theres a guy i like and he has shown signs that he likes me and he knows i like him but says he's choosing to stay single so do you think he would change his mind eventually? Especially if he managed to do a lot of the things he'd like to do such as travelling and stuff which he is doing soon? I know he has had a gf before and it didn't work out because they didn't get to see each other but he has said he's choosing to stay single and at one point way before he knew i liked him that he can't be doing with gf's but yet he has shown he likes me. Do you think theres a chnace he would change his mind? Reply to this Question
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reader, bfire  +, writes (9 June 2008):
Yeah, some guys choose to stay single and not play the dating game. At 17 years old I had my last girlfriend, which was my second. I am nearly 23 and haven't had a girlfriend in between. I haven't really tried much though. Sometimes I get lonely, but I got over it. I moved half way through my junior year in high school so I didn't have the connections and so didn't have a girl friend then. It was hard for me to adjust to a new school and really didn't put my energies into getting a girlfriend, instead just friends, although looking back I probably could have gotten a girlfriend.
Now though I feel my years slowly creeping up with me. And want to date while I am still young and go threw all the hell and bliss that love has to offer. 5 years without a girlfriend can change your mind in being single. I have traveled and done all the nerdy and traveling a single guy can probably take in one sitting. Now I want to share travel and experiences with someone else.
During these 5 years, if a girl walked up to me and flirted with me a lot, or even asked me out and I liked her, sure I probably would have decided to have a girlfriend. Sometimes I wish that happened. But life isn't always how you want it to be.
But enough about me and what I think based on my life. Here are the facts, if he knows you like him but tells you he wants to remain single, just leave it! He doesn't want a relationship now, and to try to force him into one wouldn't turn into a long lasting or even good relationship.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (9 June 2008):
 In my experience, I've learned that men who are telling you that they are not in a position to be in a relationship should be taken at face value. They are being honest, and that should be enough to let you know that they really don't want to have a relationship at the moment. The ones who aren't sure, well, that's something else.
But listen closely to a man who says he is not looking for a relationship at the moment, because he is telling the truth. Awful as it is to hear.
Take care.
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