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age
41-50,
*ixieGwen
writes:Does it look bad if you engage in foreplay with someone if you've only been on a couple of dates?. We've known each other for a couplre of months maybe 3 but have only been out twice, used to talk daily. I'm curious because I like this guy, we have a strong sexual attraction to each other but I also feel like it'll go nowhere relationship wise anyway. I try not to think sexually when I see him but it's kind of hard not to. I dont want to have intercourse with him... but I would like to fool around a bit. I'm guessing if this were to happen.. dating him would be out the question and I would be put into the f-buddy/booty call category..I dont really do the hook up thing and so I thought id ask opinions.
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reader, PixieGwen +, writes (7 January 2010):
PixieGwen is verified as being by the original poster of the question I DO have romantic interest but I've gathered that he's prob interested in only hookin up.although he denies it n says he wants more than just sex. He msgs a lot but never makes plans(its always - hey how r u/what're u doin).he's incredibly flirty/semi naughty through txt but in person he's a gentleman. He just never seemed serious about me - to me.he says I'm reserved/shy (claims he's jk)-& talks bout wantin to do things to me n then claims. He seems bothered by the fact he can't have his way w me or atleast grope me - esp when he drunk txted me.when he calls me reserved etc its like he's tryin to get a rise out of me..so ill be like ill show u and send naughty pics of myself or talk bout meetin up n foolin around.but I don't.so after 5 min or so he msgs n says he was just playin/jk.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2010): Who is "using" who here ??? You're not really interested in him but just want your fancy tickled ?? But you have no romantic interest, don't want to "hook-up" or have/ or be a booty call ??? You only have a couple of options,,1. Find a guy you ARE REALLY interested in and persue him instead. 2. Start renting the current guy so you don't feel "used" and lay out the boundries of what you want and don't want. If you really are in your mid 20's you are adult enough to understand the "hornyiness factor" and the tradeoffs with a NSA booty call. What about the guy ?? is he really looking wanting a real relationship with you, is he actually attracted to you aside from the hornyiess factor?
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (7 January 2010):
 http://www.dearcupid.org/question/sex-on-a-first-date-today-he-is.html
Above is the link, please follow, I have just write the principle of sex and date, which help you to decide your problem of relation.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (7 January 2010):
I'd hold out for as LONG as you can.
Just keep seeing him in public, in dating scenarios where there are too many old ladies wandering past to allow clothes to be removed.
If you want him as a boyfriend then make sure you let him know you really like him.
Get some kind of reassurance from him that you aren't going to be a bit of fun before messing about with him.
Good Luck!! xx
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