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writes:This is actually a pretty stupid question.But one that I would like some opinions on.Today was my birthday.I spent the day with somebody that I have been seeing for about 7 months.We have not talked about commitment and love and all of that.We do treat each other as a couple I suppose,we just never talked about it.So anyways,in my birthday card he signed "love" before his name.I know this is goofy to ask,but what exactly does that mean? We have never said I love you to each other....and the card doesnt say that specifficaly.Im probably over analyzing this.But I dont think I would sign a card that way if I didnt intend it to mean that I love the person.What would you take it to mean? And men especially,if you were to sign a card this way,would it have any sort of meaning or do you look at it as just a way to sign a card?
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (8 September 2009):
 I say this with kindness, and because I was there in my youth, but overanalyzing things is a redundant waste of time. You have a 50% chance of being right... and a 50% chance of being wrong. After spending all of your time guessing, you are in the same place as before... not knowing for sure.
Any message worth conveying to you will be spelled out clearly. Maybe this is a baby-step to declaring stronger feelings for you, or maybe it isn't.
Enjoy the sentiment. He obviously cares for you.
You will appear "sexier" for pretending not to have noticed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): Love can mean many things. At this stage of the game, he probably just mean "like you a lot" unless he follows up with words. Let it rest. Don't ask.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): This gives you a GREAT oppurtunity to discuss your feelings. After 7 months, you two should possibly discuss where the relationship is going. If you're ready to elevate it, then it might be good to know if he is as well.
Has the relationship been paltonic so far?
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reader, Manya +, writes (8 September 2009):
Happy Birthday!
I think it's very human to overanalyze the word "love" on a birthday card, especially when it's from a man you've been seeing for seven months who just spent your birthday with you! I know I would!! Also, I would analyze the way it's written -- scripty or printed, flowery or plain...large or small...
"Love" on the birthday card means he cares about you and loves you, and I would say it's a great thing!! It may not mean "that" much,per say, although it may... I would just be happy he wrote that, and say it's a step towards beginning to define your relationship in words. it is definitely POSITIVE!!
I wish you all the best!
Love,
Manya
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (8 September 2009):
 There is more than one kind of love. I love my extended family. I love close friends. I love my wife. But they are all different. I often sign letters with love. I'm sure it means some thing, probably not as much as you think.
FA
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): Well that is a hard one, some people just allways sign love - soand so on cards but it might just be his way in saying that he does care about you. It really does depend on the man, personaly I wouldn't write the word love without meaning it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): I personally NEVER sign a card "love" unless I mean it, such as to my partner, my daughter or family members, everyone else gets a "take care" or "best wishes"
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (8 September 2009):
 You might be onto something. Just be careful.
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