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writes:I'm really confused in what to do........I've meet this girl almost 2years ago and we have been very close to eachother when i first meet her we both wanted just to be friends(she had a boy friend at the time and she made sure i was aware of this.) And i didn't want to be in a realtionship at this time. She just broke up with the creep a few months ago and I'm starting to have feelings for her, but i don't know if she see me as "just a friend and will be nothing more" still. I really want to tell her how i feel and how much i care about her but on the other side i don't want her to think I'm a creep or a tool for asking her out and for her not to want to be my friend anymore. I would rather be her boyfriend then just friend of course because i do think she is amazing, but I couldn't stand losing her as a friend and not gaining something so much more.There is another problem with this as well, I just found out not to long ago about some major health problems(that she knows about as well) that will hold me back from having the kind of life i wish i could have and the kind of life i know she would like (eg: unable to travel-spend alot of time in hospitals) if she did go out with me i would feel like I'm holding her back as well.Please help me out on this one my heart tells me to ask her out but my mind tells me to let her live her life to the fullest and just be there as a friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2009): Well I've asked her out.. and just as i thought i'm only a friend.... nothing more at least my health will end all this pain soon enough
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): She broke up a few months back. OK. There's nothing wrong with asking her out but not with telling you her your feelings. That would push her away. Don't worry about the health issue. It may or may not make her back away. She knows about it, so don't worry about it. If she accepts a date, keep in on a friends only level for a LONG TIME!!!
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reader, masoxi  +, writes (8 September 2009):
You should try to express what you feel to her and she will decide if you are friends or boyfriend
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reader, smkiismoke  +, writes (8 September 2009):
 wow... i am so sorry about your situation and i hope u make a speedy recovery back into great health***. okay. well i honestly think that you should ease into the relationship...see where her heart is; test the waters... if it seems cold then don't dive in but if it's nice and warm take a chance who knows what you could get of it.
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