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writes: im 16, my boyfriend is 18, we have been together for 4 months, but we have known eachother for almost a year. when school ends in june, he will be leaving for college and enlisting in the navy. yet, we want to keep our relationship together. he says the only way he could stay would be if i get pregnant. last month we had a pregnancy scare, which we have found out we have nothing to worry about. it was rly scary and we both were talking and he said "i just wouldnt even know what we would do". but now he is telling me "the only way i could stay here would be if u got pregnant... could we keep us together after i leave? i could stay if..." i just said "yes...but we're still young..." and all he said was "i know." and then he had to rush off to work. what do u think this means? does he WANT to have a child with me now? even after the total freak out went on when we had that scare? will it be an inevitable break up if i dont get pregnant? pleasee hellppp!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2009): If you can't even discuss this like adults without all the dancing around things, there is NO WAY IN HELL that you two have any business bringing a child into this world.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (10 October 2009):
I agree with the other posts. Don't even consider this. This guy is really bad news.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (10 October 2009):
Sorry but bollocks.
I'm an army wife and I don't have kids and me and my hubby have been through 2 tours of Iraq and one of Kosovo. He stays with me because he loves me and I love him.
The girl here on camp who has 4 kids has a husband who cheats on her EVERY time he goes away, and he treats her like crap. In a way the kids DO keep them together because she is STUCK with him. Stuck being left with the kids, knowing he's off with other women, being shouted at, told she's worthless, and being very very miserable. She also tends to have bruises sometimes.
If you have a kids with him now you stand a HUGE chance of being a teenage single mum.
All a kid will do is let him control you and treat you like crap because you feel trapped.
So yeah.
In conclusion, a kid will keep you with him, even when you shouldn't be.
LOVE will keep you together if it's RIGHT.
DO NOT get pregnant. Get on the pill and take control of your own body.
If he loves you he will stay with you and stay loyal without lumping you with a child and ruining your life.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, :)31215 +, writes (10 October 2009):
 No :( don't get yourself pregnant just to please him!Like what Rythum said, he is just being controlling.Please don't get pregant to try and keep your love.If you both love each other as much as you claim, then you won't need a child to keep the relationship going :)Good luck - i hope you find a way to keep the spark without having a babyMaybe later when you're older =)x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2009): Your boyfriend is trying to control you. In his twisted mind if you get pregnant then no other man will have you while he is away.
This is extremely extremely selfish and immature and totally irresponsible and he DOESN'T TRUST YOU OR THINK ENOUGH OF YOU to believe in the love you share that you will be there when he returns.
Cut him loose. This is a really, really bad sign. Do not put your life on hold for this loser. Live your own life and date whom ever you want, hopefully at your age you will forget about having a baby especially unmarried with no visible means of support. Start thinking about what YOU want to do with your life and how you are going to develop a skill or a career so that you won't have to depend on anyone else to support you.
That gives you a certain amount of security, self confidence and the freedom to make better choices in a partner.
Good Gawd, this is the worst thing I think I have ever heard, really, how dumb are people these days, having a child is not like getting a puppy, it is a huge responsibility to bring another life into this crazy world of ours.
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