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writes:I've been in a relationship with this guy for about 3 months now. Things were good at first we had our petty couples quarrels but other than that we respected each other. But lately my boyfriend has been getting vicious with his words and the things he says to me. He posted our business on his Facebook and yelled at me on there telling me I am insane and crazy and need to stop being such a loser and get a job. (First let me say this. I left my last job because of my health and the stress it caused was destroying my body inside out)I have been looking hard for a job but where i live jobs are scarce people aren't hiring and no one is quitting or getting fired. He makes it seem like we have a booming job market. He has his own online business but that is still in its very beginning. So he isn't mkaing any money from it. I've talked to him about it and every time I explain to him my feelings are hurt he cuts me off and say I'm full of drama and i am drama. I don't think i am. I am in college, trying to find a job, my name isn't in the streets. No crazy exes No kids, I'm not a gossiper. But he insist i am. Its getting so bad My stomach hurts and i get bad headaches. I feel like he is trying to get me to break up with him so he can play the victim. I am at wits end.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2011): You are right to leave your job if it's affecting your health. Your health is more important than any job. You will find something else eventually.
I think you should leave him also. He has many bad qualities from what you've said here and he is very immature at the least to criticize you in public that way. 3 months into a relationship is not the time for major problems like these, these are all red flags.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (17 February 2011):
 He really sounds like he's a lot more trouble than he's worth.
Getting nasty and yelling at you on Facebook? Cutting you off if you try to talk about your situation, and telling you you're full of drama.........he's full of rubbish!
Why don't you oblige him and break up so's he won't be able to act so horribly? If he wants to play the victim, why then, LET him! You don't have to play that game with him, you know!
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reader, violetfiend  +, writes (17 February 2011):
Hi There Sweetness,
I would leave him before he leaves you, Seriously RUN AWAY...
He's being a jerk, and now nothing you do will stop him. If he wants to play the victim he can, but you know the truth and because of that you can hold your head up high. My most recent ex was like that, i moved away for University and found that he was becoming a possessive horrible man. I left him and suddenly I was a whore, however my friends all knew the truth about our break-up so they knew I hadn't done anything he was suggesting. You need to stay close to your friends and family when you break-up with him which you really should do he's making you ill, and it sounds like you have a history of stress related illness, he's making you worse...
Be strong stay positive, even move to an area away from him, to where there is more work. He won't like being left in the lurch, but you shouldn't be being treated like this. Everyone has the right to be happy, and he isn't making you happy.
Be Strong Stay Safe, Be Happy
Lots of Lovin
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reader, DontKnowAnyMore +, writes (17 February 2011):
 He doesn't have the right to talk to you that way!
and you shouldn't care what anyone thinks or if you look like the bad guy, just do whats best for you!
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