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writes:me and my boyfriend are pretty serious :DDD we love each other so much... he is the only one i love... but i tell a lot of my other friends i love them even though i dont i have ever since i was little..he is really bothered by that because his last girlfriend did that to him and it just f**ked him up at the end... so ive been trying really hard not to any more yet its really hard... does he really think ill do that to him to? is he paranoid? Reply to this Question
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reader, RAWR!!! +, writes (11 October 2010):
RAWR!!! is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank u so much :DDDDD
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reader, happy140 +, writes (10 October 2010):
 Just from personal experience, things my ex did made me a better person but not before I got over entrusting woman. We have feelings and we get just as upset when were hurt as woman do. I personally, and I mean personally-I find it appalling that someone will say that they love me and yet tells others they love them too. It made me feel as if that word was as common as “toast”.
It really created a rift with my wife when she did it. I fell so let down. We know you love your girlfriends and some of your male friends in a different way and you can express that differently. When a man is told he is loved by a woman, normally he believes her but not if the word “love” is a common house hold term. Hence now he is unsure if you do or not. He thinks he’s a boyfriend or does he think he is just a male friend? That’s what hes left with when you say “I love you” to everyone.
He, just like you-needs time to get over what has happened to him. If he did you wrong today you would not be over it tomorrow, especially because he said he loves you. It HURTS much more, because if someone loves you how can they make you feel this bad?
Just reassure him when you can that your there for him and you care so deeply for him. Men do understand the different kinds and levels of love but we have a hard time rationalizing it in our minds for some reason.
Make him feel the way you want to feel. Part of being in love is the security and comfort you feel when your near the one you love. And it gets more powerful when you touch.
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