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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:hello me and my girlfriend have ben dating for a year now. i love her very much and i know that she loves me too and were in love, but my thing that she cheated on me with two of her exs and yes it hurt me really badly but i just dont know what to say or do. she says that shes sorry and i have forgiven her but it still really hurts me till this day and i dont know what to or say to her can you plezz help me out .
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reader, rcn +, writes (9 October 2010):
 You forgave her, so what else is there to do? We often wonder why someone would do that to someone they love, and really there is no answer other than it being disrespectful, them falling into desire, opportunity and in the moment. Who knows. I can't say she doesn't love you, because there is not evidence that says sex and love are always a combined act. Some people, although wrong, can have sex with someone else and not love their partner any less. If you're wanting a committed relationship, I would assure she knows that if it's not going to be, you two need to part ways, and she needs to be honest with what she wants. It does hurt, but if you have truly forgiven her, you're saying that you'll be with her, even though that happened, therefore it's be inappropriate to hold onto her cheating as part of your relationship from here on out. Forgiveness is not forgetting, but it is no longer holding what she did over her head.
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