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writes:well when i first went out with my bf, he said to his mate over email, that i was "up 4 it". does he think im easy? or am i just unstable from previous relationships that sounds the same as this situation? Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (26 December 2008):
 It seems to suggest that he think he's getting some and maybe he thinks you're easy. If you're not like that, don't be like that then. Tell him no and to respect your boundaries. He'll see soon that you're not "up 4 it", not unless he shows you that he really loves, cares about and respects you.
Let him know the kind of person you are and he won't be making such silly assumptions!
Good luck, sweetness!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2008): Yes he sees quick easy sex.
Pin back your lug holes.
No man will give his heart to a easy woman because he will never trust in it's safety.
Now I know women want to be equal to men and the initial reaction is to throw up your arms and say it's different for men that's not fair.
But remember we are the sperm you are the egg.
You know when you have a baby it's yours..boy do you know.
A man can never know this so he does everything in his power to safeguard fatherhood.
If he considers you easy it puts doubts in his mind, hence the grilling on your sexual past.
He becomes insecure and the relationship becomes difficult and usually breaks down.
Now i'm not suggesting you become a nun but to wait a good period of time before 'making love' (having sex)???? with your boyfriend.
Patience will reap rewards.
Quick fun or a lasting relationship.
You can't have both.
Hope this helps good luck for the future x
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2008): well it seems to me he thinks he is getting sex easily... but it's simple to solve.. let him know your not! if all he is in for is the sex then your best off finding a man who loves you for who you are or ACTUALLY LOVES YOU. because if all they want is sex they dont love you, they are just trying to get themself some sex. your in control tho if you say no, then the answer is no.
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