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writes: I'm 18 years old and about a month or two ago I started seeing this 21 year old guy whom I met through friends. Before we started liking each other, I knew of his habits of being a real bad girl chaser, always hitting on and adding hot girls on the internet and texting them. At first I was hesitant of being with such a guy like that, but he ditched those habits straight away. I was proudly and exclusively his and he treated me amazingly well. A couple of days ago we were just "play" arguing about sex when he let slip in a joke that he wanted "to find another hot girl in our relationship for a threesome." Even though he was joking, I could tell that he really had been thinking about it for a while. That comment has really upset me, I don't want him to feel like he needs other girls to satisfy him? I feel like he obviously doesn't want this relationship to be as exclusive as I want it to be.
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (4 January 2010):
 You are doing well in discussing sex. You can be best, if you add following point in your thought.
1. Don't be upset when you discuss sex, even when you valued relationship as a matter of moral point.
2. Listen him thoroughly. Ask more and more question about his liking about threesome, like a. what you think very special in threesome? b. Is it porn pictures that inspire you to make such experiment? c. Why you think sex in couple as less attractive? d. What you mean by 'sex pleasure'.
3.In such discussion you say your point with confidence. If you stop his expression, you will never know and say and learn about sex and sex relationship and love relationship.
4.You say your choice with reason; 1.that good communication of sex energy and love feeling is possible only in relationship. Where as threesome is something against relationship, it is there to destroy any possibility of relationship. It is only sex act generated from merely dreaming state of mind. Threesome do not mean, it give supreme pleasure, our mind seek.
5 The above narrated points are worth considering. But, my advice is face discussion with courage and confidence.
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (4 January 2010):
All he is is immature. Whether or not he was joking, it was a stupid thing for him to say. Perhaps you should tell him that you would actually think it better to find a hot guy in your relationship for a threesome because you're not gay but you're beginning to think that maybe he is.
Don't expect him to change anytime soon. When I was between 16-20 I dated a boy who made dumb comments about threesomes. Along with comments such as that, he also wanted to criticize the size of my breasts and how I should get implants and how I'm "actress" hot and not "porn star" hot, which also led to him making comments about how hot he thought some of my friends were.
You just have an immature jackass on your hands and he'll probably continue to make you feel bad about yourself and like you're not good enough. Deal with it for now if you want to see how things go, but I wouldn't put up with his crap for too long.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (4 January 2010):
I'm sure you've heard of the saying 'a leopard never changes its spots'? Well here we are. He had a problem with chasing girls before, and now he's hinting he would like a threesome. To be fair, he did stop texting other girls and such. But don't allow yourself to be second best. Maybe see what happens in the near future and decide whether you want to be with him or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2010): You must feel very hurt and disappointed but.. if his heart isnt totally focussed on you, then thats how he is, u cant change him, you need to work out whether you still want to date this guy knowing thats how he feels. As much as you would like him to only date you and not see other girls, he either isnt ready for that yet, or doesnt want to be now. You should never do anythng that you dont want to, so if you arent interested in the threesome, then tell him, he sounds like he isnt ready for an exclusive r/ship yet, maybe you need to talk to him and then decide whats best for you and your needs.
take care
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