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writes: ok so this is the situation, i met this guy and we spent everyday together for 3 weeks from the 1st day we met, we only had our first kiss after 3 weeks and went to into a relationship, everything was going fine for about 1 month then he broke up with me saying that he felt i was intentionally pushing him away. we got back together and i ended up meeting his parents and him mine. just before i left on holiday he told me that he loved me and had never felt this way about anyone in a very long time. i left on vacation and everything was going ok until one night i got very drunk and ended up sending him a text msg telling him that i loved him and that i just wanted him to be sure about it and i didn't want him to think i'd cheat on him, the only reason for doing was that i spoken to his best friend earlier and he'd told me that my bf and i must stop being so negative about each other cheating, the next day he sent me a text telling me he was unhappy and that its over.2 days later on new years eve just before new years he sent me a text saying he is so stupid for leaving me and that he regrets it more than anything and that we should talk when he gets back on the 6th. i asked him what he wanted and he replied saying me and nothing more, i told him i wanted him too but that i didnt know if i could go through it again, he said fine he loves me and we'll talk when he comes back. its now the 4th i haven't heard from him since new years and im just scared that his changed his mind, everyone i know is giving me a different opinion and i dont know what to do anymore. does this guy really love me? why does he keep leaving me?
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (1 April 2008):
 Sweetheart while he is telling you he loves you and it is on his terms things seem to be fine but when you tell him you love him too it seems to freak him out and he probably thinks, ooh committment issues.
I would not play this game forever as it screwing your head up and that is not fair.
He is always the one in control and controlling the relationship, if he comes back to you now tell him how you want it to be and if he is going to freak out everytime you tell him how you feel about him then what is his problem.
He either decides now whether he wants to be with you or not and to stop playing games with your heart as it just isn't fair. I am sure there are plenty of other guys out there who would not mess you around like this. Perhaps things are going too fast for him but he is the one telling you how much he loves you.
Don't listen to his friends and you either trust one another or you don't - have a good heart to heart and get your cards out on the table so to speak and say you either make a go of it or you don't, no half way measures and if he splits up with you again then it is most definitely over, no more chances of getting back together as it will drive you insane.
No one wants to be dumped and picked up like an old rag every 5 minutes.
Make your stand and show him how strong you can be.
Don't be his play thing OK.
Good luck and BFN.
Country Woman
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