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*ustlovett
writes:*OP's Original Title*Its just coming up on 3 months of us kicking it. The last month has been totally different. First let me say he got laid off about a month ago and his aunt just before he found out about his job.Now we do not talk that much, he texts way more, avoids my phone calls, and I've been stood up 2 times (no communication from him about it) When I tell him I don't want to text with him no more he'll call. My father passed during this time and he was not there for me at all, until the day before the funeral he tells me he was think about how hard it was for him with his aunt and couldn't imagine what I was dealing with and was sorry he had not been there for me. He say losing his job has nothing to do with it.He told me he loves me. This was said after I told him he was letting go of a good woman. He said he didn't want to lose me and wanted to know what he could do to make it better.I asked why he tells me this now that I'm fed up he says he knew I was a good woman that he knew he could spend the rest of his life with me from our first date.His actions shows totally different. Even after the I love you thing we were to meet up and he was to let me know if we were still on he never did. I told him bye I was done and he said if that's what I want, bye. Then the next day he texts me to tell me he misses me and I was like yeah I can tell. His response was I really miss you its lonely without you. This is the stuff he sends.I'm getting mixed feelings, does he really love me and wants to be with me or just trying to hold on to me to see if others work (that's if there are others, I don't know) or am I reading too much into it and should just relax, but I need communication.
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reader, justlovett +, writes (25 June 2010):
justlovett is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOldersister you are correct....love is an action. Prior to him losing his job and the passing of his aunt the actions were all there. We don't live in the same town, but we talked everday. He showed up all the times, even without me knowing or calling while he's almost here. We would meet in the middle. Had dinner, lunch, breakefast. All that ended when he lost his job and his aunt. It showed very much that he missed me and was growing in love with me.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 June 2010):
I have the feeling that you're the 'just in case girl' and he's keeping you around. The fact he says he loves you doesn't cover up the fact that he just treats you shabbily. He's done nothing to prove his love for you at all. Not a thing. Stop all contact, ignore his calls and forget his texts. If you don't, come ten years you'll be wondering where all your lost time has gone.
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