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writes:Okay. So I'm dating this guy and we have been dating 7 months. He thinks he's ugly and that I could do better, but gets super jealous when I even talk to another guy. Recently he asked for a 3 sum, and I'm bisexual. So of course I said yes. But why would he want one if he's in love with me? Does he love me, or does he just want me because he thinks I'm the only one who would take him as a boyfriend?
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reader, Samutsen  +, writes (9 December 2007):
 I guess your questioning his proposal is not fully legitameteÇ
1-You said YES
2-You are Bi
3-He knew it and knowing took you as her girlfriend. So the implicit arrangement was he would not mind, or he would anticipate you sleeping with another girl.
(if not exactly with this combination in mind, but come on if it was explicitly this way would you say no, never ?
My guess, he is not going to be serious with you. In the sense of a long term affair but he likes the idea of fun (3sum). So to your last question, for now, probably yes.
But you cannot plan the future in these things, he may start loving you...seriously in the future.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (9 December 2007):
 Nice answer Peoriaman.
Just because there is such a thing as a threesome, doesn't make it a normal part of everyone's sex life. The fact that you are questioning his love for you after this request kind of points to the fact that it's not right for you. Just my observation. If a relationship is challenging to begin with, introducing another variable into it is bound to make it even more difficult, don't you think? I'd work out the issues that you have together first, or get him to work out his self-esteem issue. That's something you can't fix for him by introducing someone new into the bedroom. What else would he need if that didn't help, a cheering section? Yikes.
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reader, Somethingeasy +, writes (9 December 2007):
 He probally doesnt love you. And if you do have a threesome it will ruin your current relationship.
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