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30-35,
*elofuego
writes:I'm a seventeen year old girl, and I consider myself bisexual, even though I've never actually been in a relationship with another girl. Only my closest friends know about my sexuality. I have to tell a little bit of a backstory to get people to understand my POV. Last year around this time of year, I confided in another girl on my basketball team that I was bi, and I had a crush on another girl on the team (I'll call her 'Mary'). Well. A week later, the entire team knew, (because the teammate I confided in blabbed on me... my fault for trusting her) and I had my heart crushed because 'Mary' told me she was straight, and there was nothing she could do to change that. Because of the tension between me and Mary the rest of the season, my basketball team went through a really rough time--tons of drama and things like that. We're okay now... but 'Mary' isn't my problem anymore.It's a new season, I'm a senior captain, and my team is amazing now, because we have this new girl who just transferred to our school, I'll call her 'Katie'. I've only started talking to Katie a couple weeks ago when our season started. She has the best laugh, and my heart jumps when she passes by me in the halls.... she's really touchy-feeling on the court with me, but maybe I'm just mistaking her aggressiveness for possible flirting... I don't know. I had a dream last night that she kissed me and I was so happy. I wanted it to be real life.... but I have the feeling I've just fallen for another straight girl again.I can't screw up this season again like last year, just because I've started to like Katie. No one knows about this, because really, I don't have any real friends to talk to about it, which is why I've resorted to asking this question online.So my question: Do I risk another year of drama and tension for the 0.01% chance Katie could like me back?
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reader, Variety  +, writes (9 December 2007):
 I wouldn't do anything yet. Maybe socialise with the whole team outside of just doing sport. The you may find out more about her and whether there is a possibility for you two to get together. Message me if you want to chat x
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (9 December 2007):
 After the last season, Ouch by the way, I'd be inclined to sit on the bench for a while. There really isn't a hurry or a timeline here. Wouldn't it be prudent to simply take a wait and see attitude? If she is interested, she will tip her hat and show you at some point. Hope things work out for you. Take care.
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reader, Somethingeasy +, writes (9 December 2007):
 Nope hold it in you will find another girl/guy to like in no time flat. But get some friends first. Have you even had an intimate relationship with another female so you can genuienlly be called bi-sexual?
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