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writes:There is a former work colleague who I went to see at his house to test drive his new car and have a chat about life and how I am since leaving my last job. After I drove his car we were having a good conversation then I said how I don't have many people to go to the cinema with anymore since my old friends left me out for the men in their live and he responded by saying how would like to go with me to which I was surprised and said nothing but unsure how to take his request, since then he said it would be as friends as we both enjoy cinema and what's the problem to which I said ''none'' I suggested some movies but nothing happened since, is he playing games with me ? any advice appreciated? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe have been to the cinema a couple of times now and its been nice, we share popcorn and have good conversations, we take turns to drive and pick each other up, he even kindly copied a whole album of Whitney Houston greatest hits onto CD after seeing that I like her music from a comment I made on my phone app, Last weekend he wanted to go out with me again but I couldn't as had other social plans and he gives me this impression that he wants our friendship to continue and its good.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe have been to the cinema a couple of times since and its been nice, I asked him to copy a DVD for me which I got today and he also copied two discs of Whitney Houston music onto CD which I did not expect but was very nice :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2014): I don't think he's necessecarily playing games.He could be feeling a little awkward because you weren't overly enthusiastic when he first mentioned it. Maybe he feels that you just want to be friends and he's distancing himself slightly.Or he could have suggested going to the cinema together simply as a reaction to what you said about not having many friends to go with these days. He felt he had to say SOMETHING cheerful and that was his attempt.It could be that committments are getting in the way.It's only really "game-playing" if HE keeps on suggesting it but flakes out every time you accept.Have you asked him directly to go with you or have you just hinted at it (e.g. "that movie sounds good" or "I'd like to see xxx") A more direct approach might work "Would you like to come and see XXXX on Saturday night"If you've already tried the direct approach and it's not working then you should probably stop trying. He was probably just paying you a bit of lip-service rather than making a genuine offer.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (6 August 2014):
 I don't think he is playing games with you. I think it was simply a friendly request to go to the cinema.
I think why maybe he hasn't been in touch was because first off you didn't really accept his offer and maybe he is worried he came off the wrong way?
I have male friends who have invited me to the cinema, simply because I have no one else to go with, its not weird it just two friends going to the cinema.
Ring him up! Pick a movie! and be on your way! I mean whats the worst that could happen :) x
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